Nakhu Okwenza Abaphumelele Ephakeme Bazizwe Njengezehluleki

Yeka Ukunyakazisa Owakho Amapholi

Ngibuke umngane wami uMark ephula iTesla yakhe ngesonto eledlule.

Ungumsunguli osanda kuwela imali engu-$10M, kodwa ubehlezi engitshela ukuthi uzizwa eyisehluleki ngokuphelele. Inkampani yakhe ikhule ngo-300% kulo nyaka. Ithimba lakhe likhule lisuka kubantu aba-5 laya kwabangama-50. Usanda kuthenga indlu yamaphupho akhe.

Nokho, uyaqiniseka ukuthi usalela emuva.

"Kufanele ngibe ku-$20M manje," esho, egqolozele ocingweni lwakhe lapho omunye we-LinkedIn eqhosha ngokuphuma kwabo ku-$100M. "Bonke abanye babonakala behamba ngokushesha okukhulu."

Kungaleso sikhathi lapho kwangithinta khona: UMark akaphumeleli nhlobo. Uwela kwesinye sezicupho eziyingozi kakhulu ekukhuleni komuntu siqu - indida yenqubekela phambili engabonakali.

Cabanga ngakho:

• Eminyakeni emithathu edlule, uMark wayejabule ngenyanga yakhe yokuqala engu-$10K. Manje, uzishaya ngaphezu kwezinyanga ezingu-$800K.
• Eminyakeni emibili edlule, wagubha ukuqasha isisebenzi sakhe sokuqala. Manje, ukuphatha abantu abangu-50 kuzwakala njengokuthi "ukungakhuli ngokushesha ngokwanele."
• Ngonyaka odlule, isici kujenali yebhizinisi lendawo wenza unyaka wakhe. Manje, izindaba zezindaba zikazwelonke azibhalisi neze.

Intuthuko yakhe ayizange inyamalale. Izindinganiso zakhe zaziqhubeka zihambisana nokukhula kwakhe, njengesithunzi esidlulela phambili kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhamba ibanga elingakanani.

UMark akayedwa. Le phethini ibonakala yonke indawo uma uqala ukuyifuna.

• Umdidiyeli wezinhlelo ongaboni ukuthi sebehambe ibanga elingakanani ngoba umatasatasa egcizelela abangakakufundi.
• Umbhali ongakwazi ukwazisa incwadi yakhe eshicilelwe ngenxa yokuthi ugxile ohlwini oluthengiswa kakhulu abangakalushayi.
• Lo msubathi okhohlwayo ukuthi wake wathwala kanzima egijima ikhilomitha ngenxa yokuthi usecasulwa wukungayingenile iBoston Marathon.

Emizuzwini embalwa ezayo, ngizochaza:

1. Kungani ubuchopho bakho buxhunywe izintambo ukuze kusule ukuqhubeka kwakho
2. Abaphumelele kakhulu bazakhela amajele abo ngokwengqondo ngephutha
3. Indlela ephikisayo yokugcina isifiso sokuvelela ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa umbono
4. Isistimu elula yokwenza ukuqhubeka kwakho kubonakale futhi

Kodwa okokuqala, udinga ukuqonda okuthile okubalulekile… ukushayela okufanayo okukufikise lapho okhona kungase kukuphuphuthekise ukuthi usuhambe kangakanani.

Izindleko Ezifihliwe Zokukhuphuka Kwamazinga

Nakhu okungekho muntu okutshela kona mayelana nokukhula komuntu siqu.

Impumelelo ingaba uhlobo lokuzikhanyisa ngegesi.

Ngaso sonke isikhathi uma ukhuphuka, ubuchopho bakho benza okuthile okuthakazelisayo - bubhala kabusha incazelo yakho "evamile." Okwake kwaba yingqungquthela kuba yisizinda sakho esisha. Futhi nakuba lokhu kuzivumelanisa nezimo zengqondo kusize okhokho bethu ukuba baphile, kudala inkinga yokuzethemba emhlabeni wanamuhla ogxile empumelelweni.

Ake ngikubonise ukuthi lokhu kusebenza kanjani:

Khumbula isethulo sakho sokuqala emsebenzini? Izandla zakho zaziqhaqhazela, izwi lakho liqhekekile, futhi ukudlula kuyo kwaba sengathi ukhuphuka i-Everest. Ngokushesha phambili namuhla - cishe uzokhipha izethulo ngaphandle komcabango wesibili.

Lokho akukhona nje ukuzilolonga. Lokho wukushintsha kwakho okuyisisekelo.

Inkinga? Ubuchopho bakho bubuhlungu ngokukhumbula izisekelo ezindala. Kufana nokuzama ukukhumbula ukuthi kwakunjani ukungakwazi ukufunda. Ungakwazi ukuqonda ngokuhlakanipha ukuthi bekunesikhathi ngaphambi kokuba ube nalelo khono, kodwa awukwazi ukufinyelela lowo muzwa wokungazi.

Lokhu kudala inkohliso eyingozi.

Cabanga ngalokhu.

Uma uqwala intaba, ukukhuphuka ngakunye kushintsha ukubuka kwakho okungezansi. Lapho uya phezulu, yilapho yonke into engaphansi kwakho ibukeka incane. Kodwa ngokungafani nokuqwala izintaba, ekukhuleni komuntu siqu, awukwazi ukubheka phansi kalula futhi ubone ukuthi usuhambe kangakanani.

Ingqondo yakho ilokhu ibuyekeza imephu ngenkathi isula amathrekhi akho.

Izibalo Zentuthuko Engabonakali

Lo mbono ubalulekile… kodwa uphazamisa amakhanda abantu lapho beqala ukuwuzwa.

Uma uthola kangcono kokuthile, ungazizwa kabi kakhulu ngamakhono akho.

Lokhu akuyona nje i-imposter syndrome. Izibalo.

Nasi isizathu:

• Uma usaqala, ungabona u-90% wezinkambu zakho. Uyakwazi okwaziyo, futhi uyakwazi ukubamba kahle lokho ongakwazi.
• Njengoba uthuthukela, uqala ukubona u-95% wensimu yakho. Kodwa lowo 5% owengeziwe wembula izinto eziyinkimbinkimbi obungazi ukuthi zikhona.
• Ngesikhathi usuyingcweti, ungase ubone u-99% wendawo yakho - nazo zonke izinselelo zayo eziyinkimbinkimbi, izinkinga ezicashile, kanye namathuba angapheli okuthuthukisa.

Indida edabukisayo? Lapho uzuza ubuciko obuningi, yilapho uqaphela ngokwengeziwe lokho ongakakwazi.

Lokhu kudala lokho engikubiza nge- Expertise Paradox :

• Abaqalayo: "Lokhu kubonakala kuyalawuleka"
• Abaphakathi: "Lokhu kunzima kunalokho ebengikucabanga"
• Ongoti: "Ngiyazi ngokwanele ukuthi angazi kangakanani"

Futhi lokho kumane kuyisiqalo senkinga.

Ngoba ngenkathi amazinga akho ekhuphuka, kukhona okunye okwenzekayo: Ukhohlwa ukukala ukuthi yini ebalulekile.

I-Metrics Trap

Ngesonto eledlule, bengikhuluma nomdali onababhalisile abangu-100,000. Yazi ukuthi babecasulwe yini? Ividiyo yabo yokugcina "kuphela" ithole ukubukwa okungu-20,000 emahoreni angama-24.

Eminyakeni emithathu edlule, bebezobe bekhipha i-champagne ukubukwa okungu-1,000.

Kodwa babengasakukali ukukhula. Babekala igebe - ibanga phakathi kwalapho bekhona nalapho becabanga ukuthi kufanele babe khona.

Lona ugibe lwamamethrikhi : Uma uqala ukuzikala uphikisana nemibono yakho esikhundleni sokuqhubeka kwakho.

Kufana nokuthi uzithukuthelele ngokugijima i-half marathon kuphela ngoba awukakawuqedi ogcwele. Khonamanjalo, usukhohliwe ukuthi ngonyaka odlule awukwazanga ukugijima imayela elilodwa.

Kodwa kulapho okuthakasela khona kakhulu...

Izimpande Zebhayoloji Zokungabi Never

Ingqondo yakho inesici esiba yisiphazamisi.

Ososayensi bakubiza ngokuthi "i-hedonic adaptation" - ikhono elimangalisayo lengqondo yakho lokujwayela izimo ezintsha. Yindlela efanayo ekusiza ukuthi ujwayele idolobha elisha, ululame ekulahlekelweni, noma ujwayele impumelelo.

Kodwa esimweni sempumelelo, kufana nokuba nekhadi lesikweletu elingokwengqondo elingenamkhawulo. Konke okufeziwe oyikhokhisa kukho kuba kwejwayelekile ngokushesha kunokuba ungasho ukuthi, "Yini elandelayo?"

Ake ngikubonise ukuthi lokhu kujula kangakanani:

Ucwaningo lwabathole izindondo zama-Olympics luthole okuthile okuthakazelisayo: Abathole izindondo zethusi babevame ukujabula kakhulu kunabathole izindondo zesiliva. Kungani?

• Abawine ubhedu bakuthokozele ukuba semsamo nhlobo.
• Abathole izindondo zesiliva bebengacabanga nje ngokungalitholi igolide.

Isiteji esifanayo. Isisekelo esihlukile. Injabulo ehlukene.

Lokhu akuphathelene nezemidlalo kuphela. Ngiyibona ebhizinisini nsuku zonke:

• Umsunguli oshaye u-$1M emalini engenayo kodwa akakwazi ukugubha ngoba uzimisele ngokufika ku-$10M.
• Umtshali-zimali ophinde kabili iphothifoliyo yakhe kodwa uzizwa engemuva ngoba uphuthelwe i-unicorn.
• Umbhali othole inkontileka yezincwadi kodwa usevele egcizelelwe ngohlu oluthengiswa kakhulu.

Uhlelo lwakho lokusebenza lwakudala

Nakhu okwenzeka ngempela engqondweni yakho.

Okhokho bethu bangaphambi komlando babedinga izinto ezimbili ukuze baphile:

1. Ikhono lokuzivumelanisa ngokushesha nezimo ezintsha
2. Umgomo wokuhlala ufuna okwengeziwe (ukudla, ukuphepha, izinsiza)

Lokhu bekuwuhlelo oluhle kakhulu lokusinda. Inkinga? Sisebenzisa isofthiwe ye-paleolithic ku-hardware yesimanje.

Ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho uzuza okuthile, ingqondo yakho...

1. Yenza kube jwayelekile impumelelo ( adaptation )
2. Ngokushesha iqala ukufuna okwengeziwe ( shayela )
3. Isula inkumbulo engokomzwelo yomzabalazo ( ukusebenza kahle )

Kufana nokuthi ingqondo yakho ingumhleli ononya, njalo isusa indaba yakho yomsuka kuyilapho wengeza izahluko ezintsha zengcindezi.

Umphumela we-Amnesia Wempumelelo

Kodwa linda, kuba mnandi nakakhulu.

Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi njengoba abantu bephumelela kakhulu, empeleni abakhumbuli kahle ukuthi izinto zazinzima kangakanani ekuqaleni. Le "amnesia yempumelelo" idala ubumpumputhe obuphindiwe:

• Awukwazi ukubona ukuqhubeka kwakho ngoba amazinga akho alokhu ekhuphuka.
• Awukwazi ukukhumbula indawo yakho yokuqala ngoba impumelelo ibhale kabusha izinkumbulo zakho.
• Ngibone lokhu kufanekiswa kahle ngenyanga edlule lapho ngixoxisana nomphathi wezobuchwepheshe nge-podcast yami.

Ubengitshela "ngempumelelo yakhe yasebusuku" - ngaze ngakhipha inhlolokhono yethu eminyakeni emihlanu edlule lapho achaza khona kabanzi mayelana nokushabalala kwakhe, isehlukaniso, kanye nama-pivots amathathu amandulele impumelelo yakhe.

Wayesewukhohliwe ngokoqobo umzabalazo. Isisekelo sakhe esisha sasisuliwe.

I-Double-Edge Eyingozi

Ngakho-ke, mhlawumbe uyacabanga: "Kulungile, ngiphuthelwa omaka benqubekelaphambili. Manje-ke?"

Kuyinkinga enkulu kunalokho ucabanga.

Ubumpumputhe benqubekela phambili abugcini nje ngokungakhululeki - bungaba yingozi kakhulu. Idala uhlobo olukhethekile lomuntu ophumelelayo olichoboza kanye kanye futhi abhidlike ngaphakathi.

Indida Ephumelelayo Kodwa Ebuhlungu

Bengisesidlweni sakusihlwa nabasunguli abathathu ngesonto eledlule. Isamba esihlanganisiwe? Enyakatho yezigidi ezingu-100 zamaRandi.

Uyazi ukuthi bakhulume ngani amahora amabili?

• Basalela emuva kanjani.
• Kufanele baqhubeke kanjani phambili.
• Indlela wonke umuntu abonakala ehamba ngayo ngokushesha.

Lokhu akuyona nje i-imposter syndrome. Kuwuhlobo lokukhathazeka okusebenzayo oseluba ubhubhane phakathi kwabaphumelele kakhulu.

Izinzuzo kanye Nezimpi Zezinga Elikhulayo

Bheka, ukuba nezindinganiso eziphakeme akukubi ngokwemvelo. Cishe yikhona okufike lapho ukhona. Ibha yakho ekhuphukayo ibe njengomqeqeshi womuntu siqu empumelelweni yakho - ehlala ekucindezela ukuthi wenze i-rep eyodwa ngaphezulu, phakamisa kancane esindayo, futhi uqhubeke kancane.

Kodwa nansi inkinga.

Uma amazinga akho ekhuphuka ngokushesha kunamandla akho okubona inqubekelaphambili, udala into engiyibiza ngokuthi "I-Achievement Treadmill":

1. Ushaye igoli.
2. Esikhundleni sokugubha, ngokushesha usetha ephakeme.
3. Wehlisa impumelelo ngoba "bekufanele ngabe inkulu."
4. Uphuthelwa amathuba okufunda empumelelweni yakho.
5. Uyisa phambili ingcindezi kodwa hhayi ukuzethemba.

Izindleko Ezifihliwe Akekho Okhuluma Ngazo

Lokhu kuphakanyiswa njalo kwebha ngaphandle kokuvuma inqubekelaphambili kudala imiphumela elimazayo emine:

1. I-Burnout Spiral

   • Uphusha kakhulu ngoba awuboni ukuthi wenza okwanele.

   • Umzimba wakho nengqondo akukutholi ukululama okudingayo.

   • Wenza iphutha lokukhathala ngenxa yobuvila bese uphusha kakhulu.

     
     

2. Intela Yobudlelwano

   • Unzima eqenjini lakho ngoba "kumele siqhubeke."

   • Ubudlelwano bomuntu siqu buyahlupheka ngoba awukaze ube "lapho" okwamanje.

   • Niyeke ukubungaza amawini abanye ngoba bebonakala bebancane.

     
     

3. Ibhulokhi Yokufunda

   • Uphuthelwa izifundo ezibalulekile ngoba ugxile kakhulu kokulandelayo.

   • Awubhali ukuthi yini esebenzile ngoba "bekungekuhle ngokwanele."

   • Uphinda amaphutha ngoba awumi ukukhombisa.

     
     

4. Igebe Lokuqiniseka
   • Impumelelo yangaphandle iyakhula ngenkathi ukuzethemba kwangaphakathi kuncipha.
   • Uzethemba kancane ngoba "uhlezi ungemuva."
   • Ukuthathwa kwezinqumo kuba nzima ngoba ulahlekelwe yikhampasi yakho yangaphakathi.

Uhlaka Lokuqashelwa Kwenqubekelaphambili

Ake ngihlanganyele okuthile okwashintsha yonke into komunye wabangane bami abahle (isisulu esisobala kakhulu salesi sigameko) - uhlelo olulula okwenza inqubekelaphambili engabonakali ibonakale futhi.

Ngiyibiza ngokuthi "I-Progress Mirror," futhi iklanyelwe ukwenza into eyodwa: Ukukubonisa lokho ubuchopho bakho obuzama ukukufihla.

Isebenza kanjena.

I-Horizons Yezikhathi Ezintathu

Okokuqala, esikhundleni sokugxila lapho ufuna ukuba khona (okuyinto ubuchopho bakho vele yenza okuningi kakhulu), uzobheka ngokuhlelekile izikhathi ezintathu:

1. Isibuko Sezinyanga Eziyi-12

• Donsa ikhalenda lakho kusukela onyakeni owodwa odlule.
• Bheka ukuthi uthuswe yini ke.
• Buyekeza izinkinga ebezikugcina ungalali ebusuku.
• Hlola izitatimende zakho zasebhange namamethrikhi.

2. Isifinyezo Sezinsuku Ezingama-90

• Faka ohlwini izinselele zakho zansuku zonke zekota yokugcina.
• Buyekeza amaphrojekthi obudonsa kanzima.
• Bheka izinqumo ezikugcizelele.
• Hlola izimo zakho zemizwa evamile.

3. Ukuhlolwa Kwangempela Kwezinsuku Ezingama-30

• Bhala amakhono akho amanje.
• Faka kuhlu izinkinga zakho ezisebenzayo nezinselele.
• Bhala phansi amakhono akho amanje kanye nezindawo zokunethezeka.
• Qaphela imisebenzi yakho evamile yansuku zonke.

Amandla awekho kunoma yisiphi isibuyekezo esisodwa – ahlukile phakathi kwawo.

Ukudala Inqubekelaphambili Yakho Inventory

Uma usubuyekeze ama-horizons akho esikhathi, isinyathelo esilandelayo ukwakha lokho engikubiza ngokuthi "Uhlu Lwenqubekelaphambili." Nikeza imizuzu engu-15 njalo ngeSonto ebusuku ukuze ubonise futhi ugcwalise lezi zigaba ezintathu:

Isigaba Sokunqoba

• Yini elula manje kunangenyanga edlule?
• Yini oyenza ngokuzenzakalelayo ebikade idinga umcabango?
• Yiziphi izinkinga eziye zashabalala?
• Yimaphi amakhono amasha owazuzile?

Isigaba Sokukhula

• Yini oyizamayo manje obungeke uyilokothe ngaphambilini?
• Ingabe izindinganiso zakho zikhuphukele kuphi?
• Yiziphi izinkinga ezintsha ozitholele ilungelo lokuba nazo?
• Yibuphi ubudlelwano obuye bajula noma banda?

Isigaba Sokufunda

• Yimaphi amaphutha ongasawenzi?
• Yimiphi imibono emisha oyizuzile?
• Imaphi amaphethini osuqala ukuwabona?
• Yimaphi amathuluzi owazi kahle?

Lawa mathuluzi amabili anamandla - i -Progress Mirror kanye ne -Progress Inventory - asebenza ndawonye ukuze axazulule inkinga eyinhloko ebesixoxa ngayo: ukuthambekela kobuchopho bakho ukufihla ukukhula kwakho ngemuva kwamazinga akhuphukayo.

I -Progress Mirror ikuphoqa ukuthi uhlehlise isithombe futhi ubone isithombe esikhulu ngokusebenzisa ama-horizons amathathu esikhathi esibucayi. Kufana nokuhlehla emdwebeni ukuze ubuke ikhanvasi egcwele yokukhula kwakho.

Ngaleso sikhathi, i -Progress Inventory yamasonto onke iyasondeza, ithwebula amashifu acashile kanye nokunqoba okuncane okuhlanganiswa kube izinguquko ezinkulu.

Esetshenziswa ndawonye, lawa mathuluzi adala into engiyibiza ngokuthi "ukwazi ukuqhubeka" - ikhono lokuhlala ufisa ukuvelela ube wazi ukuthi usuhambe ibanga elingakanani.

I-Balance Point: I-Ambitious Kodwa Uyazi

Lawa mathuluzi awakona nje ukubona inqubekelaphambili. Kumayelana nokuthola leyo ndawo emnandi phakathi kwendlala nokwaneliseka - unqenqema lwensingo lapho ungaba khona ukuvelela kanye nokwazisa ngesikhathi esisodwa.

Uma uba ngcono ekuboneni inqubekelaphambili, yilapho uthuthuka ngokushesha.

Kungani?

Ngoba ukuzethemba kuhlanganisa. Uma ubona ukukhula kwakho ngokucacile, u:

• Thatha izingozi ezinkulu.
• Phinda uthole ngokushesha ezinkingeni.
• Yenza izinqumo ezingcono.
• Yakha amaqembu aqinile.
• Hamba ngokuqiniseka okwengeziwe.

Kufana nenzalo ehlanganisiwe yamakhono akho.

Ukuhamba Kwakho

Bheka, sesihlanganise izindawo eziningi lapha. Kodwa ulwazi ngaphandle kwesenzo luwukuzijabulisa nje.

Ngakho, nakhu engifuna ukwenze njengamanje. Hhayi kusasa. Hhayi uma “unesikhathi.” Khona manje:

1. Donsa ikhalenda yakho kusukela onyakeni owodwa odlule namuhla.
2. Bheka ukuthi yini ebidla imicabango yakho, yini ebikwenza ungalali ebusuku, obekuzwakala kunzima ngendlela engenzeki.
3. Bhala izinto ezintathu ezakwesabisa ngaleso sikhathi kodwa owaziphatha ngaphandle kokucwayiza namuhla.

Lelo gebe? Leso sikhala phakathi kokwesaba okudlule kanye nokujwayelekile kwamanje?

Akuyona nje intuthuko leyo. Lobo ubufakazi benguqulo yakho ebilokhu iphusha, iqhubeka ikhula, futhi ilokhu ivela – noma ngabe inqubekelaphambili ibingabonakali.

Ubuwena besikhathi esizayo buvele bukhona, ngibheka emuva ngalesi sikhathi. Bayakwazi ukubona iziqongo zezintaba namuhla ezizwakala njengamawa angenakunqotshwa. Bazi kahle ukuthi usuzokhuphuka ibanga elingakanani.

Mhlawumbe sekuyisikhathi sokuthi nawe uyibone.

Ngoba nali iqiniso:

• Awusekho emuva.
• Awubambekile.
• Awuweli.

Awuboni nje ukuziphendukela kwemvelo kwakho.

Kuze kube yisonto elizayo,
Scott