Ikhaya Lomgwaqo Omude: Indaba Yokulahlekelwa, Ukufunda, kanye Nokuvuselelwa Kabusha - INGXENYE 4

Ekucabangeni kwami kwangaphambilini ngobudlelwane bangempela kanye nokuzethemba, ngahlola ukulingana okuthambile phakathi kokunakekela abanye nokugcina umuzwa wethu wobumina. Namuhla, kufanele ngikhulume ngesici esibalulekile salokhu kubhalansa izehlakalo zakamuva ezilethe ukugxila kakhulu: isidingo esiphelele sokuzivikela ezweni lapho ubuxhwanguxhwangu bukhona.

Izolo, ngenkathi ngishayela ekhaya nomndeni wami, sihlangabezane nesikhumbuzo esiqinile saleli qiniso. Umshayeli onolaka uye wanqamula indlela yethu budedengu ezimpambanweni zomgwaqo, ebonisa ukungakunaki ngokuphelele ukuphepha kwethu. Okwalandela—ukuziphatha kwabo kobuxhwanguxhwangu nokungabi nandaba—kwasebenza njengesingathekiso esinamandla seqiniso elijulile: ububi abukho njengendalo yaphezulu, kodwa njengoba u-Einstein aphawula, njengokwakheka komuntu owazalwa ngenxa yokungabikho kothando.

Njengendoda engumJuda yesizukulwane sesithathu ukhokho wayo wabhubha ekuQothulweni Kwesizwe, nginokuqonda okujulile ukuthi ukuphendulela esinye isihlathi akuyona impendulo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Umlando usifundise, ngezibonelo ezilimaza kakhulu, ukuthi kunezikhathi lapho ukuma uqinile kungeyona nje inketho—kuyimpoqo yokuziphatha.

Lokhu akulona ucingo lokulahla ububele noma ukwamukela ukugxeka. Kunalokho, kuwubizo lokuphaphama lokwamukela uhlobo lokuhlakanipha oluphelele kakhulu: oluvuma kokubili amandla omusa womuntu kanye nokuba ngokoqobo kobubi bomuntu. Amandla eqiniso asekugcineni lokhu kuqwashisa okukabili—ukuvuleleka ekuxhumekeni ngenkathi uhlala uqaphile futhi ukwazi ukuzivikela.

Kubantwana bami, nakubo bonke abafunda lokhu, ngithi: hlakulelani kokubili ububele namandla. Funda ukuzivikela—hhayi nje ngokomzimba, kodwa ngokomzwelo nangokomoya. Thuthukisa amakhono, ukuqwashisa, kanye nokuzimisela ukuma uqine lapho ubhekene nalabo abangalimaza wena noma obathandayo. Lokhu akuphathelene nokukhuthaza ubudlova; kumayelana nokwakha ikhono lokumelana nalo ngempumelelo.

Indlela yokuthuthuka komuntu siqu kufanele ifake lesi sici esibalulekile sokuzivikela. Uhambo lwethu empilweni ludinga ukuthi sihlakulele ukuqaphela isimo, sihloniphe imizwa yethu engokwemvelo lapho isixwayisa ngengozi. Kufanele sakhe kokubili ukuqina ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo, siqonde ukuthi imingcele yethu ayikona nje ukuzihlonipha—imayelana nokusinda. Kuleli zwe elinezinselele eziyinkimbinkimbi, kufanele sazi ukuthi ukuma siqinile ngokumelene nolaka ngezinye izikhathi kuyisinqumo esihle kunazo zonke esingazenza.

Njengoba sizulazula kulo mhlaba oyinkimbinkimbi, masikhumbule ukuthi amandla nozwelo akuphikisani—kuyizici ezihambisanayo zomuntu ophelele. Izandla ezifanayo ezinganikeza usizo kwabanye kumelwe futhi zikwazi ukuvikela lokho esikubheka njengokubalulekile. Inhliziyo efanayo evulela ukuxhumana okuyiqiniso kufanele futhi ihlakaniphe ngokwanele ukuze ibone futhi imelane nalabo abangasebenzisa lokho kuvuleka.

Ukuhlakanipha kutholakala ekutholeni ibhalansi: ukungabi-naïve noma ukudideka, ukungabi buthakathaka noma unya. Kumayelana nokuthuthukisa ukuqonda ukwazi ukuthi kufanele siludlulise nini uzwelo nokuthi kufanele sime siqine nini, sizivule nini izinhliziyo zethu nokuthi siziphakamise nini izihlangu zethu.

Kulabo abaye bahlushwa ezandleni zabanye, abaye babhekana nokuxhashazwa, ubudlova, noma okubi nakakhulu: umuzwa wakho wemvelo wokuzivikela awusebenzi nje—kubalulekile. Ihloniphe. Ithuthukise. Ungalokothi uxolise ngakho.

Njengoba siqhubeka nalolu hambo lokukhula nokuzihlola, masamukele lokhu kuqonda okuphelele kokuthuthuka komuntu siqu—okuvuma kokubili ubuhle kanye nobungozi bomhlaba wethu. Masizakhele sibe abantu abangakwazi kokubili ukuthanda ngokujulile futhi bavikele ngokujulile, abangadlulisela ububele kuyilapho begcina imingcele eqinile, abangathemba okuhle kodwa belungiselelwa okubi kakhulu.

Ngokuba kulokhu kulinganisa kukhona ukuhlakanipha kweqiniso, amandla eqiniso, nokuphila kwangempela.

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