Sithe phithi kukuthantamisa ngokwethu.  Wonke umntu ozincedayo kunye ne-Instagram therapist ushumayela umyalezo ofanayo: yiba nobubele kuwe, ziqhelanise novelwano, kwaye ubhiyozele impumelelo encinci.  Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho ixabiso lokungagxeki kakhulu. Akukho mntu ufuna ukuzithiya okanye ukukhubazeka.  Kodwa kuthekani ukuba bendikuxelele ukuba ukuzibhokoxa ngakumbi sisitshixo senkululeko?  Nantsi into ephoswa ngabantu abaninzi:  abona bantu baphumeleleyo kulo naliphi na icandelo banethemba ngaxeshanye kwizakhono zabo kwaye banyaniseke ngenkohlakalo malunga neentsilelo zabo.  Cinga ngaloo nto okomzuzwana.  Ngaba unokuyithelekelela indlela oziva ukhululekile ngayo ukuba sele uphumelele kwaye usazi, nzulu, ukuba akukho ndawo ikufutshane nesakhono sakho?  Ayidambisi loo nto. Oko kuyavuyisa.  Kuba xa uphumelele ngokwenene, akusekho mfuneko yokuba ukhusele i-ego yakho. Awudingi ukukhusela isikhundla sakho ngoku. Unokuzijonga ngombono ocacileyo kwaye ucinge "   " Ndilungile, kodwa ndinokuba ngcono kakhulu.  Abantu abaninzi abakhe bayifumane le nkululeko kuba bavaleleke kwintolongo abazenzele yona.  Babambelele ekukhuseleni inqanaba labo langoku lempumelelo. Ukukhusela i-ego yabo. Ukwenza izizathu zokuba kutheni bengakhange baqhubele phambili.   I-Mediocrity ayisosikhundla - yinto yengqondo.  Kwaye i-mindset ivela kuloyiko olunzulu lokuba ukuba sivuma ukusilela kwethu, siya kuziva sibi ngakumbi ngathi. Ngoko sizinza kwiipateni ezikhululekile, sizixelele ukuba "senza konke okusemandleni ethu" xa sisazi ukuba asikho.  Kodwa nantsi into emalunga nesakhono: kufana nesihlunu. Okukhona utyhala ngokuchasene nayo, kokukhona ikhula. Lo mzuzu uyeka ukutyhala, iqala i-atrophy.   Bodybuilders Yazi  Uluntu lokwakha umzimba luqonda oku kangcono kunanoma ubani, kuba abakwazi ukufihla kwisibuko.  Kukho intetho kwizangqa zokwakha umzimba (ngaphambi kokhuphiswano):  uhlala utyebile kunokuba ucinga ukuba unjalo.  Ivakala irhabaxa. Mhlawumbi nokuba yityhefu kubantu bangaphandle. Kodwa kukho ubulumko obunzulu apha obudlulela ngaphaya komzimba. Imalunga nokuzibona ngokucace ngokungagungqiyo.   Kanye njengokuba awukwazi ukuphikisana nokubonakalisa kwakho, awukwazi ukuphikisana nenyani.  Xa umi eqongeni kwi-5% yamafutha omzimba, kunye nemigqaliselo ebonisa yonke indawo, abantu abaninzi banokukubiza ngokuthi u-shredded. Kodwa ngabaphezulu?  Bahlalutya zonke iimpazamo ezincinci. Konke ukungalingani okuncinci. Yonke indawo enokuthi iqine kancinci. Akunjalo ngenxa yokuba bazithiyile - kodwa ngenxa yokuba behlonipha amandla abo ngokwaneleyo ukuba banyaniseke ngayo.  Le ayisiyiyo i-dysmorphia yomzimba-kukufuna ukungayeki ukugqwesa. Umzuzu uyeka ukukhusela inqanaba lakho langoku ngumzuzu oqala ukuwugqitha.   Kanye njengokuba yonke i-rep yakha izihlunu, lonke uvavanyo olunyanisekileyo lwakha ukugqwesa.  Ukusebenza kwakho kugxininise ngakumbi kuba uyeka ukuzenza ngathi "ukuziva udiniwe" sisizathu esifanelekileyo. Isondlo sakho sibizwa ngokuba uyeka ukuzixokisa malunga "nokutya okukopela okukodwa." Ukuchacha kwakho kuba ngcwele ngenxa yokuba ekugqibeleni uvuma ukuba ungakanani ubuthongo obufuna ngokwenene. Awunakwaneliseka "ngokulunga ngokwaneleyo" kuba ungcamle into engaphaya kwayo.   Oosomashishini Baphila Ngayo  Thatha lo mbono mnye ungaguqukiyo kwaye uwusebenzise kwishishini.   Kanye njengokuba umakhi womzimba akakwazi ukuphikisana nesibuko, usomashishini akakwazi ukuphikisana nemarike.  Yonke iprojekthi oyenzayo iya kuthatha ixesha eliphindwe kathathu kunokuba ucinga. Lonke umkhankaso wokuthengisa uya kufuna ukuphindaphindwa okungaphezulu kunokuba ubucebe. Ukuqaliswa kwemveliso nganye kuya kufuna ukulungiswa ngakumbi kunokuba ubulindele. Kwaye ukwenza ngathi ngenye indlela asilothemba – yinkohliso.  Oosomashishini abenzayo ayingabo ababethelela yonke into kwitry yokuqala. Ngabo balindele ukuba kube nzima kwaye baqhubeke betyhala. Ngabo abajonga iprototype yabo yokuqala ngendlela umakhi womzimba azijonga ngayo esipilini: ngokuxabisa inkqubela, kodwa umbono ocacileyo wekristale malunga noko kufuneka kuguqulwe.  Cinga ngelo qalo ubulicwangcisa. Mhlawumbi unomda wexesha entlokweni yakho. Phinda kabini. Yiphinde kabini kwakhona. Hayi ngenxa yokuba uza kusebenza kancinci, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ukwenza izinto   kuthatha ixesha. Kuba ekugqibeleni unyanisekile malunga nokuba kungakanani ukugqwesa okufunekayo. ngokufanelekileyo   Njengaye wonke umntu osilelayo ukwenza ukuba womelele, konke ukubuyisela umva kukwenza ube krelekrele.  Oku asikokuthemba - bubuchule bokwenene. Xa usamkela indlela oluya kuba nzima ngayo uhambo, uyeka ukudanyazwa zizithintelo.   Ayisekho miqobo. Bayinkqubo.  INyaniso yeHlabathi liphela  Ekupheleni kosuku,  awukho mhle njengoko ucinga ukuba unjalo.  Nantoni na.  Izakhono zakho zokunxibelelana? Hayi njengoko usulungekile njengoko ukholelwa.  Indlela osebenza ngayo? Mhlawumbi awunamandla njengoko uzixelela.  Iitalente zakho? Ayikasetyenziswa kakhulu.  Kodwa kulapho ifumana umdla khona. Olu vavanyo lokwenyani alwenzelwanga ukuba likutyhafise - lwenzelwe   . Kuba ukuba awukho kakuhle njengoko ucinga ukuba unjalo, oko kuthetha ukuba kukho indawo eninzi yokukhula. ukukuchulumancisa   Umsantsa phakathi kwendawo okhoyo nendawo onokuba kuyo lithuba lakho.  I-Liberation Paradox  Umzuzu uyeka ukukhusela inqanaba lakho langoku, kwenzeka into emlingo. Amandla obuwasebenzisa ukugcina umfanekiso wakho wesiqu sakho uthunyelwa kuphuculo lokwenyani.   Cinga malunga nokuba angakanani amandla engqondo owachithayo:  Ukuthethelela indawo yakho yangoku  Ukwenza izizathu zamathuba owaphosiweyo  Ukuzithelekisa nabanye "abenza okubi"  Kuthekani ukuba uthathe onke loo mandla kwaye wawagalela ekubeni ngcono endaweni yoko?   Inkululeko yokwenyani iza xa uyeka ukufuna ukuba “lungile ngokwaneleyo” kwaye uqale ukwamkele ukuba awulunganga   . okwangoku  Kufana nokukhulula ubhaka onzima obungazazi nokuba uwuthwele. Ubunzima bokugcina umfanekiso wakho wesiqu sakho buyancipha, endaweni yokukhanya kwesakhono esicocekileyo.  Ukwenza Ibe Luncedo  Ukuba nzima kuwe akuthethi ukuba uzibethe ngo-2 AM ngeempazamo ezidlulileyo. Kuthetha ukujonga usuku lwakho kwaye ubuze "   " Ndiziyeke phi lula?  Xa uyigqibile loo projekthi kwangethuba? Mhlawumbi ubunokongeza omnye umaleko wepolishi.  Xa ufikelela kwithagethi yakho yokuthengisa? Mhlawumbi ubunokwenza iminxeba elishumi ngaphezulu.  Xa uziva udiniwe kwindawo yokuzivocavoca? Mhlawumbi bekukho iireps ezimbini kuwe.    Awungomntu umbi ngokuba negumbi lokuphucula. Ungumntu onamandla angenamkhawulo okhetha ukubona inyani ngokucacileyo. Into ephambili kukwahlula ixabiso lakho ekusebenzeni kwakho.  Akukho malunga nesohlwayo - yinto   . enokwenzeka  Abona bantu baphumeleleyo ndibaziyo abahambi kwilifu lokuzithiya. Bomelezwa ngamandla abo. Bachulumancile yindlela ekusafuneka bahambe ngayo.  Kuba nantsi inyani:  umzuzu ocinga ukuba "uyenzile" ngumzuzu oqala ukuhla.  Kodwa xa uvuma ukuba nzima kuwe, yonke imihla iba lithuba. Yonke impazamo iba yidatha. Yonke into ebuyisiweyo iba yingxelo.  Kwaye ngequbuliso, awubanjwanga bubuchule bakho bangoku. Awuzikhuseli malunga neziphene zakho. Uyaqala nje.  Yinkululeko yokwenene leyo.  Hayi inkululeko yokukhululeka, kodwa inkululeko yokukhula ngaphandle komda.  Inkululeko yokujonga kwisibuko kwaye uthi "andikho ngokwaneleyo okwangoku - kwaye yiloo nto ndiza kuphumelela."  – Scott

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