Wake wazizwa sengathi impilo yakho akuyona eyakho?  Ikhalenda lakho ligcwele izinto ongafuni ukuzenza.  Ibhokisi lakho lokungenayo ligcwele izicelo ongazange uzibhalisele.  Futhi ngandlela thize, nguwe ogcina ngokuhlela iphathi yosuku lokuzalwa lukamakhelwane wakho.  Kuyahlanya.  Ukhathele. Weluliwe wazacile. Kodwa nokho, ulokhu uthi “yebo” njengokuthi i-reflex — ngoba kuzwakala kulula kunokuthi “cha.”  Kodwa wonke “yebo” entweni ongenandaba nayo ungu “cha” ezintweni ezibalulekile.  Okubalulekile kwakho.  Ukuthula kwakho.  Impilo yakho.  Ngakho-ke namuhla, siphenya iskripthi.  Ngizokukhombisa ukuthi ungasho kanjani ukuthi “cha” ngaphandle kokuzizwa njengembongolo, ngaphandle kwamabhuloho avuthayo, futhi ngaphandle kokugcina icala.  Ngoba ukuthi “cha” kungelinye lamakhono anamandla kakhulu ongawafunda.  Ake sikwenze eyakho.   Izindleko Zokuthi “Yebo”  Eminyakeni edlule, nganginomkhuba wokuvuma yonke into. Amaphrojekthi omsebenzi, idina lezinsuku zokuzalwa, ngisho nemihlangano yekhofi engahleliwe engangazi ukuthi ngeke iye ndawo.  Ngazitshela ukuthi ngiziphethe kahle. Ukuthi ngakha ubudlelwano. Ukuthi kwakuyi-karma enhle.  Nganginzani ngempela? Ukumba ithuna ngesikhathi sami, amandla, nengqondo.  Izithombe zangempela zami ngingcwaba ingqondo yami 'yebo' ngesikhathi  ‍  Ngobunye ubusuku, ngemva kokusebenza amahora angu-12 kanye nesidlo sakusihlwa “esisheshayo” nomuntu engangingamthandi, ngazithola ngisemotweni yami, ngimemeza esiteringini. Hhayi ngenxa yomuntu, hhayi ngenxa yomsebenzi - kodwa ngoba ngangazi ukuthi ngizenzele mina.  Ngangichitha isikhathi sami sengathi yimali ye-Monopoly. Futhi ngani? Ukuze ugweme izingxoxo ezimbalwa ezingakhululekile?  Ngaleso sikhathi ngabona: Ukuthi “yebo” kukho konke kwakungekona ukuphana. Kwaba ukuzicekela phansi.   Kungani Ukuthi “Cha” kungamandla amakhulu  Lapho ufunda ukuthi “cha,” awumane nje wenqabe isicelo. Ubuyisela isikhathi sakho, amandla akho, nezinto eziza kuqala kuwe.  Udweba umugqa esihlabathini. Ukuthi, “   . Yilokhu okubalulekile kimi, futhi angikudele ngenxa yento engekho  Indida?   . Bakubona njengomuntu owazisa isikhathi sabo - okubenza bazise esakho nakakhulu. Abantu bakuhlonipha kakhulu uma ubeka imingcele   I-Anatomy ye-Perfect "Cha"  Ukuthi “cha” akudingekile ukuba uzizwe ufuna ukuhlukana nothile. Eqinisweni, uma kwenziwa kahle, kungenza abantu bakuhloniphe nakakhulu.  Nalu uhlaka olulula lwezinyathelo ezi-5:  ‍   Qala ngokubonga.  “Ngiyabonga ngokungicabangela…”  (I-Flattery ayibuhlungu, akunjalo?)   Livume ithuba.  "Kuzwakala njengephrojekthi emangalisayo ..."  (Ngisho noma ucabanga ngasese ukuthi kuzwakala njengesihogo.)   Nikeza isizathu esicacile sokuncipha.  "Ngiyaxolisa kakhulu manje..."  (Noma vele usebenzise engikuthandayo: “Anginawo umkhawulokudonsa.”)   Bafisele impumelelo.  “Ngiyazi ukuthi kuzoba okumangalisayo…”  (Ukuhumusha: Angikwenzi, kodwa ngithemba ukuthi kuzophumelela.)   Kugcine kufushane.  Akukho ukuchaza ngokweqile.  Alikho icala. Akukho ku-waffling.  ‍  Kwenziwe kahle, u-“cha” wakho uzozwakala njenge-high-five kune-slam yomnyango.   Isikhathi Sokuthi “Cha”  Awukaqiniseki ukuthi usilahla nini isando? Sebenzisa lezi zinqamuleli zengqondo:   Umthetho Wesihogo  Uma kungesona “isihogo yebo,” kungucha. Kulula.   I-Time Razor  Uma ingakusizi ukuthi ukhule, ufunde, noma uzuze, ayisifanele isikhathi sakho.   Hlola Amathumbu  Uma umcabango wokuthi “yebo” ukwenza ufune ukukhohlisa ukufa kwakho bese uthuthela esiqhingini esikude, lokho kuwuphawu oluhle kakhulu.   Inothi Ngecala  Ngesikhathi sokuqala uma ngithi “cha” kokuthile okukhulu, ngachitha amahora amabili alandelayo ngihambahamba efulethini lami sengathi ngenze ubugebengu.  Ngiphinde ngidlale ingxoxo ekhanda lami ku-loop. Ngabe ngizwakale ngidelela? Ngabe ngibubhidlizile ubudlelwano? Ingabe lo muntu ubezoqala ingxoxo yeqembu eyimfihlo ebizwa ngokuthi  Izizathu Zokuzonda U-Ben?  Uyazi ukuthi kwenzekani ngempela?   Akukho kulokho.  Bakuthatha kahle. Kuqhubeke. Mhlawumbe ukhohlwe ngakho ngesikhathi bedla isidlo sasemini.  Kodwa mina? Ngangicwila ekubeni necala, sengathi ngizokhahlela umdlwane.  Nakhu engikufundile kusukela lapho:  Ukuba necala akusho ukuthi wenze into embi.  Kusho ukuthi wenze   . okuhlukile  Futhi masikhulume iqiniso, okuhlukile akukhululekile. Okuhlukile kuyethusa.  Kodwa futhi yilapho ukukhula kuhlala khona.  Ukujabulisa abantu kufana ne-tattoo endala, embi owake wayizama. Yimbi, ikhona impilo yonke ngaphandle kokuthi usebenze kanzima ukuyisusa, futhi uba namahloni njalo uma othile ekuveza.  Ukufunda ukuthi “cha” kuyinqubo yokususa i-laser. Kubuhlungu? Impela. Kuyakufaneleka? Nakanjani.  Ngokuzayo lapho uzizwa unecala ungena, zikhumbuze: Akulona icala leli. Kuwukukhula. Futhi ukukhula, ngisho noma kukuncane, kuhlale kuwukuwina.   Umcabango Wokugcina  Awukweleti muntu isikhathi sakho. Hhayi umphathi wakho. Hhayi abangani bakho. Futhi ngokuqinisekile akuyona insizwa engahleliwe obucabanga ukuthi uzama ngempela ukuxhumana nayo ku-Instagram ecele ukujoyina ithuba layo le-MLM “elishintsha impilo”. (ngenzeke kimi ezinsukwini ezi-2 ezedlule).  Isikhathi sakho ngesakho. Kulondoloze njengengcebo yakho eyigugu kakhulu.  Ukuthi “cha” akubona ubugovu. Kuyinkululeko. Inkululeko yokuyeka ukuba yi-b*tch crutch yemizwa yawo wonke umuntu, uhlelo lokusekelayo, noma isixazululi sezinkinga.  Inkululeko ekugcineni ube nguwe.  Okunganyakaziswa.  Engathinteki.    . Unf*ckwithable  Yilolo hlobo lwempilo okufanele luvikelwe.  Kuze kube ngokuzayo, ✌️  UBen  ‍

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