A Good Story Is the Difference Between Success and Survival

Impilo yakho yonke izoshintsha lapho ubona leli qiniso elilula: Impumelelo iwukuphila nje ngokuxoxwa kwezindaba okungcono. Ake ngisho lokho kanye futhi. Impumelelo iwukuphila nje ngokuxoxwa kwezindaba okungcono. Ngisebenzise iminyaka engu-6 edlule ngifunda abantu "abaphumelele" kakhulu emhlabeni. Ngingene shi kokuqukethwe kwabo, ngahlaziya amabhizinisi abo, ngajoyina imiphakathi yabo, ngaze ngasebenza kanye nabo. Nakhu engikutholile: Akekho oke wakucacisa. Umsunguli wezibalo ezingu-8 usavuka nokukhathazeka okukhubazekile. Umgqugquzeli onabalandeli abayizigidi ezi-2 usabuza ukuthi ngabe banele yini. Umtshali-zimali onephothifoliyo efanelekile yisinqumo esisodwa esibi esisele ekuweni. Wonke umuntu uyaphithizela—kodwa abanye bavele bakhulume kakhulu, bazethembe ngokwengeziwe, baphucuzeke kakhulu endleleni abethula ngayo isiphithiphithi. Lokhu akukhona ukubhekana nokuzizwa kahle. Kuyiqiniso. Futhi uma usuyiqonda, yonke into iyashintsha. I-Grand Illusion of Mastery Umhlaba awukuvuzi ikhono. Kuvuza umbono wekhono. Bheka noma iyiphi imboni futhi uzobona le phethini: Abantu abaphumelele kakhulu akubona ngempela abanekhono kakhulu—yilabo abazimisa njengeziphathimandla ngokuxoxa izindaba. Angisho ukuthi abanawo amakhono, kodwa kunenqwaba yabantu abanamakhono amangalisayo abengekho ezikhundleni zokuphatha. Igebe ukuxoxa indaba. Ukuze kucace: Ukuxoxa izindaba akukhona ukukhohlisa. Ukuxhumana. Kungumehluko phakathi kokuba nenani nokuba lelo nani liqashelwe. Kuyibhuloho phakathi kwekhono lakho nokuqonda kwabanye abantu. Bahlanganisa uhambo lwabo, ukuqonda kwabo, kanye nokwehluleka kwabo ekulandiseni okuphakamisa ubuciko. Lokho amaphrojekthi isiqiniseko. Lokho kusho ukuthi baphule ikhodi ongenayo. Kodwa nakhu abangeke bakutshele: Ngemuva komkhuba omuhle wasekuseni kukhona umuntu oshaya okuthi snuza izikhathi ezingu-4. Ngemuva kokuthi "kuphinde kwachotshozwa" okuthunyelwe kwe-LinkedIn kuyisonto lokusabeka okukhona. Ngemuva kokuthi "indlela engakha ngayo umbuso wami" intambo ye-tweet kukhona umsunguli ozibuza ngasese ukuthi ngabe konke kuzoqhekeka yini. Ngizibonele mathupha. Ngike ngaba sezingxoxweni eziyimfihlo, izikhathi zasesiteji, izikhathi zamasu zasebusuku kakhulu. Igebe phakathi kwemibono yomphakathi kanye neqiniso eliyimfihlo alilikhulu nje—yilo lonke igeyimu. Ngikhumbula ngihlezi ngaphesheya komuntu obiza abantu abayisishiyagalolunye ngibalalele bekhuluma ngempilo yabo ephelele. Ngemva kwamahora amabili, ngabathola endaweni yokucima ukoma yasehhotela, beneziphuzo ezintathu, bengitshela ngedivosi yabo, izinkinga zabo zempilo, nendlela ngezinye izikhathi abazibuza ngayo ukuthi kukhona yini okwakufanele bakwenze. Akuyona indaba abayidayisayo leyo esiteji. Leyo akusiyo indaba eyakha umbuso wabo. Kodwa lelo yiqiniso elingemuva kwakho. Nansi into: Izilaleli zabo azifuni iqiniso elingcolile. Noma bethi bayakwenza. Bafuna ukulandisa okuhlanzekile. Bafuna inkohliso yokuthi uma nje belandela isimiso, bangathola leyo miphumela—ngaphandle kokuhlupheka, ukungaqiniseki, ukwesaba okungapheli kwakho konke ukuwa. Ithuba Elikhulu Kakhulu Kakhulu Lokhu kudala ithuba elikhulu abantu abaningi abaliphuthelwa ngokuphelele. Abadali abaningi nosomabhizinisi bathola lokhu emuva. Bacabanga ukuthi, "Uma sengikwazi kahle leli khono, ngizophumelela." Bachitha iminyaka emiseleni bethuthukisa amakhono kuyilapho beshaya indiva ikhono elibaluleke kakhulu: ukuxoxa indaba. Ngaleso sikhathi, umuntu onamandla oku-1/10 kodwa nekhono lakhe lokuxoxa indaba eliphindwe ka-10 ligijima eduze kwakhe. Lokhu akukona ukuba fake. Kumayelana nokuqonda iqiniso eliyisisekelo: Indlela oxhumana ngayo nohambo lwakho ibaluleke njengohambo ngokwalo. Uyalibona ithuba? Uma abantu abaphansi abaxoxa izindaba ezimnandi bewina, cabanga ukuthi kwenzekani uma uhlanganisa ikhono elicokeme KANYE nokuxoxa izindaba okukhethekile. Umdlalo uphelile. Ake ngicacise - ngiyakuzonda ukubona abantu abanamakhono asezingeni eliphansi kodwa ukuxoxa izindaba okuhle kudlula abantu abanamakhono ngempela. Angikutsheli ukuthi ube yindaba yonke futhi ungabi nalutho. Engikushoyo ukuthi kufanele uphokophele ukuba nekhono le-11 kwayi-10 kodwa futhi nekhono lokuxoxa indaba ka-10x. Abantu abaningi bakhetha eyodwa noma enye. Iba ngumuntu ongavamile okwaziyo kokubili. Izindaba azizinhle ngokwemvelo noma azimbi—zingamathuluzi okuxhumana nokuqonda. Indlela ozisebenzisa ngayo ezibalulekile. Inkinga akukhona ukuxoxa indaba; ukuxoxa indaba okufihla ukuntula ikhono noma okuhlanekezela iqiniso. Umdali ohluleka izikhathi ezingu-9 ngaphambi kokuphumelela emzamweni we-10 kodwa owabelana ngempumelelo kuphela? Baxoxa indaba mbumbulu yobungcweti ngobusuku obubodwa. Kodwa uma ungumdali noma usomabhizinisi obhala yonke imizamo engu-10, wabelana ngemininingwane kusukela ekuhlulekeni ngakunye, uxoxa indaba yokukhula okuqhubekayo. Umphumela ofanayo. Ukulandisa okuhlukile. Umbono ohluke kakhulu. Kufanele uzibuze: hlobo luni lwendaba ofuna ukuyisho? Hlobo luni lwezethameli ofuna ukuzakha? Kimina, eyokugcina. Indaba yokuqala—lapho ushiya khona ukwehluleka okuyisishiyagalolunye—yakha izethameli ezilambele inhlamvu yomlingo. Indaba yesibili yakha umphakathi wabahambi. Abanye abantu nabo abakwenzi. Bagxila kuphela ekuhlulekeni kwabo bese bengakhi lutho. Kodwa phakathi kwalezo zikhetho ezimbili zokuqala, yikuphi okubaluleke kakhulu okwesikhathi eside? Ngifunde lesi sifundo izikhathi eziningi. Ngisanda kuyifunda kuphrojekthi encane lapho ngazama khona ukuqala ibhizinisi, ngalahlekelwa yisamba semali, futhi cishe izinyanga ezingu-18 zokuphila kwami. Ingqondo yami engokwemvelo kwakuwukufihla lokho kwehluleka—ukwenza sengathi akukaze kwenzeke bese ngiqala kabusha ngento entsha. Kodwa akusona isifundo engikufundisa sona leso. Akukhona lokho okwenzayo. Kunalokho, ngabhala ngakho. Ngikhulume ngakho. Ngahlehlisa kahle lokho okungahambanga kahle, engangikufunda, indlela engangizobhekana ngayo nezinto ngendlela ehlukile ngokuzayo, izinto engazisusa kulokho kwehluleka. Futhi lokhu okuqukethwe—ezinye izincwadi zezindaba engizibhalile ngakho, okunye okuthunyelwe—kukhiqize abalandeli abaningi, ukuxhumana okwengeziwe, amathuba amaningi kunanoma yini engangiyibhale ngaphambili. Kungani? Ngoba ubuqiniso besu buwukuphazamiseka kwephethini emhlabeni wempumelelo ekhiqiziwe. Bheka nxazonke futhi uzokubona yonke indawo: abantu abaxoxa izindaba ezipholishiwe kuyilapho befihla ukuntula kwabo ikhono futhi beshiya izingxenye ezimbi, ezingcolile. Ngiphakamisa okuthile okuhlukile: faka izingxenye ezimbi, ezingcolile. Xoxa indaba egcwele. Leyo nhlanganisela Futhi ukuthuthukisa ikhono langempela. indlela onqoba ngayo. Amaphethini Okuxoxa Angu-5 Aphumelele Kakhulu Ngemva kokufunda amakhulukhulu abadali abaphumelele, ngikhombe amaphethini okuxoxa izindaba amahlanu abawasebenzisayo bonke: 1 – Uhlaka Loguquko Abalokothi baveze impumelelo njengethalente abazalwa nalo. Balubeka njengohambo olusuka emzabalazweni luye empumelelweni, bemema abanye ukuthi bahlonze lapho beqala khona. "Ngangiphukile futhi ngilala kusofa lomngane wami eminyakeni engu-3 edlule. Manje nginebhizinisi elinamanani angu-7. Nakhu okushintshile." 2 - Ukuvezwa Okukhethiwe Babelana ngobuthakathaka—kodwa obunamasu. Imizabalazo eyenza ubuntu ngaphandle kokubukela phansi igunya. Ukwehluleka okwedlule, hhayi ukungaqiniseki kwamanje. "Ngahluleka emabhizinisini ami amathathu okuqala ngaphambi kokuthola le modeli esebenzayo." Ungalokothi: "Anginasiqiniseko sokuthi ibhizinisi lami lamanje lizophila yini ezinyangeni ezizayo ezingu-6." 3 – I-Pattern Recognition Flex Babeka okubonwayo okuvamile njengemininingwane ejulile, basebenzisa ulimi olufana nokuthi "Ngiqaphele ukuthi..." noma "Abantu abaningi bayakukhumbula lokhu, kodwa..." ukuze baphakamise umbono oyingqayizivele. "Iningi labantu likukhumbula ngokuphelele lokhu mayelana nokwakha izethameli, kodwa i-algorithm empeleni iyavuza..." Leli ithuluzi elihle lokuxoxa indaba ukuze uhlanganise ukuhlakanipha kwakho. I-4 - Isikhundla Sochwepheshe Esifinyelelekayo Balinganisela impumelelo yezifiso nobuntu obuhlobene. "Ngakhe amabhizinisi amaningi abantu abangu-7, kodwa ngisakhohlwa ukususa ukuthula kumakholi e-Zoom." Lokhu kudala inhlanganisela ephelele: "Baphumelele ngokwanele ukungifundisa kodwa abantu ngokwanele ukuqonda ubunzima bami." 5 - Ibhuloho Elizayo-Edlule Baxhuma lapho bekhona (okuhlobene) nalapho bekhona (abalangazelela) lapho beya khona (abanombono), bakha indlela yokulandisa abanye abafuna ukuyilandela. "Ngaqala ngabalandeli abangu-10 eminyakeni emithathu edlule. Manje sesiku-500,000. Futhi sisaqala—umgomo weshumi leminyaka elizayo ukufinyelela abantu abayizigidi ezingu-10 ngalo mlayezo." Ingcweti kulawa maphethini futhi uwuphethe kahle umdlalo. Ngikutshela la maphethini ngethemba lokuthi uzowasebenzisa ngendlela yokuziphatha. Uzozisebenzisa ukuze ukhulise ikhono lakho. Abantu bangasebenzisa la maphethini ngonya. Kodwa uma ufunda lokhu, ngiyazi ukuthi ungumuntu onekhono, onesimilo, futhi ngifuna ukukunikeza lawa mathuluzi ukuze wakhe ukuxhumana nezithameli zakho futhi uphakamise igama lakho siqu. Manje sesihlanganise ukuthi abantu abaphumelele baxoxa izindaba zabo. Kodwa ngifuna ukushintsha amagiya futhi ngikhulume ngokuthi bebatshela ngale ndlela—kanye neqiniso elingokwengqondo eliyinkimbinkimbi ngemva kwala maphethini. kanjani kungani Ngoba la maphethini okuxoxa indaba awawona amahle noma amabi ngokwemvelo—angamathuluzi. Futhi njenganoma yiliphi ithuluzi, umthelela uncike ngokuphelele ekutheni zisetshenziswa kanjani. Lapho la maphethini esetshenziswa ngobuqotho—esekelwa ikhono langempela nenani langempela—afeza injongo ebalulekile. Basiza abantu baqonde imibono eyinkimbinkimbi, babone okungenzeka ezimpilweni zabo, futhi baxhumane nomlayezo wakho ezingeni elijulile. Kodwa lapho lezi zindlela ezifanayo zisetshenziselwa ukufihla ukungakwazi noma ukukhohlisa abanye, yilapho izinto ziba yinkimbinkimbi ngokwengqondo. Kulapho-ke izinkinga ziqala khona. Uyabona, izingxoxo eziningi mayelana nokuxoxwa kwezindaba zilula kakhulu. Kuphakathi kokuthi "lawa amaqhinga okuthengisa angenangqondo" noma "lawa amakhono abalulekile okuxhumana." Iqiniso lilele ndawana thize. Ngemva kokuchitha isikhathi namakhulu abadali abaphumelelayo ngaphandle kweminyango evaliwe, ngifunde ukuthi nalabo abasebenzisa la maphethini ngokuphumelelayo bavame ukubhekana nesisindo esingokwengqondo sokuthi baziveza kanjani uma beqhathaniswa nendlela abazizwa ngayo ngaphakathi. I-Dark Psychology of Success Theatre Lokhu kusebenza kokuqiniseka akukhona nje ukumaketha. Kuyindlela yokubhekana nengqondo. Usomabhizinisi uveza ukuzethemba okungantengantengi? Bavame ukulawula ukungabaza kwabo okukhubazayo. Umdali othengisa uguquko? Bazama ukuziguqula ngawe. Uchwepheshe wokukhiqiza onesistimu ephelele? Bazama ukulawula isiphithiphithi sabo. Sifundisa lokho esikudinga kakhulu ukukufunda. Sithengisa lokho esifuna ukukuthenga kakhulu. Senza lokho esikwesaba kakhulu esikusweleyo. Lokhu akukona ukugxeka. Kuyingqondo yomuntu. Wonke umdali osebenza endaweni yomphakathi (kuhlanganise nami) usebenza ngamashidi akhe kuyilapho ephonsa inselelo kwabanye ukuthi bakhuphuke. Abaqotho bayavuma. Bonke abanye bayayifihla ngemuva kobuciko bokusebenza. Inkinga ukuthi ukugcina lokhu kusebenza kuthatha umonakalo ongokwengqondo. Lapho likhula igebe phakathi kwesithombe sakho esisesidlangalaleni kanye neqiniso eliyimfihlo, kuba yilapho kuba namandla ngokwengeziwe ukuvala lelo gebe nsuku zonke. Futhi nakhu lapho kuba ngobuqili ngempela: Ukungaqiniseki kwakho okuqotho kuzwakala njengobuthakathaka uma kuqhathaniswa nesiqiniseko sakho esikhiqiziwe. Uhambo lwakho lwangempela luzwakala lunganele uma luqhathaniswa ne-reel yabo ekhethiwe evelele. Ukufunda kwakho kwesikhathi sangempela kuzwakala kuhamba kancane uma kuqhathaniswa nobuhlakani babo besikhathi esidlule. Lokhu kuqhathanisa akugcini nje ngokulimaza— . kuyakhubaza Inkinga akuyona nje yangaphandle, futhi. Kungaphakathi. Uqala ukukholelwa ukuthi iqiniso lakho elingcolile alihlukile nje nezethulo zabo eziphucuziwe—liphansi. Ukuthi ukungabaza kwakho akukhona nje okuvamile—kuyakwenza ungafaneleki. Uyacabanga: "Ukube benginqunyelwe ngempela lokhu, bengizozizwa ngiqinisekile njengoba bebonakala benjalo." Kodwa lokho kuwukukhohlisa okukhulu kunakho konke. Futhi kulapho ithuba likhona—lokuba wakhe okuthile okuyiqiniso futhi okuzinzile kunethiyetha yempumelelo entekenteke ekuzungezile. Kodwa nakhu okwenza lokhu kube inselele: ukubona nje inkinga akwanele ukuyixazulula. Ngisho noma ubona ngenkohliso, kuselula ngendlela emangalisayo ukuwela ogibeni olufanayo lwengqondo. Kungani? Ngoba sibhekene hardwired ukuziqhathanisa nabanye. Ngokwemvelo sikala ingaphakathi lethu elingcolile ngokuqhathanisa nengaphandle elipholishiwe labanye. Futhi ezweni eligcwele izindaba zempumelelo ezikhethiwe, lokho kuqhathanisa kwenzeka izikhathi ezingamakhulu ngosuku, ngokuvamile ngaphansi kokwazi kwakho. Ukuze wakhe okuthile okuhluke ngempela, udinga kuqala ukuqonda kahle ukuthi lesi sicupho sokuqhathanisa sisebenza kanjani—imishini ethile yengqondo egcina abantu abaningi bebambekile ekungeneni okungapheli. Kungaleso sikhathi kuphela lapho ongasusa khona izikhali engqondweni yakho bese udala enye indlela esebenza ngempela. Ukunqamula Ugibe Lokuqhathanisa Uma uvamise ukuchayeka etiyetha eyimpumelelo, kudala iphethini yezengqondo eqagelekayo: Uqhathanisa okungokoqobo kwakho okungcolile nephrezentheshini ekhethiwe yomunye umuntu Uzizwa ungafaneleki ngoba awuqinisekile ngenkathi zibonakala ziqinisekile Uphethe ngokuthi kumele kube khona okungalungile ngawe Uzama ukulungisa lesi "sici" ngokufuna ulwazi olwengeziwe, ukuqiniseka okwengeziwe Usebenzisa okuqukethwe okwengeziwe okuvela kubantu abaveza ukuqiniseka Umjikelezo uyaphinda, ukuqhubekisela phambili ekuqhathaniseni futhi uqhubeke usuka esenzweni Lo mjikelezo awuzenzanga. Kwenzeka ngoba ngokwemvelo sikhangwa abantu abaveza ukuqiniseka emhlabeni ongaqinisekile. Kuvamile. Abantu abaningi abasesikhaleni sokuzithuthukisa bafuna ngempela ukusiza, kodwa izikhuthazo zivame ukuvuza ukuveza ukuqiniseka okukhulu kunalokho okukhona ngempela. Izinhlaka, amasistimu, nezindlela ezimakethwa kakhulu yilezo ezipakishwe ngezithembiso eziqine kakhulu neziqinisekiso ezicace kakhulu. Kodwa abacabangi abaguqulayo ngempela—abakha ushintsho oluhlala njalo—benza okuhlukile. Baqeda impumelelo. Benza umzabalazo. Bakunikeza imvume yokuthi ube lapho ukhona ngenkathi bekuhlomisa ukuthi uye phambili. Ngakho umbuzo uba: uwunqamula kanjani lo mjikelezo futhi wakhe impumelelo yangempela engancikile ekuqinisekeni okungamanga? Ungawina Kanjani Empeleni: Ubuqiniso Beqhinga Ngobuchule Bangempela Ithuba langempela lapha akukhona nje ukugwema izingibe zetiyetha yempumelelo—lidala enye indlela engcono. Ukuqaphela leli siko lokwenza akwanele. Udinga ukwakha okuthile okuhlukile—indaba ehambisana ngempela nokuthi ungubani kuyilapho isaklanywe ngobuchule ukuze uxhumane nabanye. Lokhu akukhona nje ngempumelelo yakho. Kumayelana nokuba uhlobo lwesibonelo owawufisa ukuba nalo ngesikhathi usaqala—umuntu oletha inzuzo yangempela kuyilapho egcina ubuqotho bangempela. Ngakho-ke usebenzisa kanjani ukuxoxa izindaba njengethuluzi elinamandla ngaphandle kokuwela ogibeni eliza nakho? Ukhuluma kanjani ngenani lakho ngaphandle kokuyekethisa izimiso zakho? Kukhona indlela engcono, futhi ihlanganisa okuhle kakhulu kuyo yomibili imihlaba: Yamukela ukubeka obala kwamasu Yabelana ngenqubo yakho, hhayi imiphumela yakho kuphela. Bhala uhambo, kuhlanganise nokwehluleka. Kodwa faka lokho kwehluleka njengokuphindaphinda okudingekayo esikhundleni sobufakazi bokungafaneleki. Ngiyazi umuntu owakha ibhizinisi le-$ 600,000 / ngonyaka ezinyangeni ezingu-14 hhayi ngokufihla ubunzima bakhe kodwa ngokubhala phansi. Konke ukuhlehla kwaba okuqukethwe. Yonke inselele yaba isifundo. Wayengaphelele—wayenobuhlobo obuhle naye. Futhi amabhithi ahlobene aphelele ngaso sonke isikhathi. Okwenza indlela yakhe ihluke ukuthi wabelane ngezizabalazo kokubhekana nazo—ngombono kanye nezifundo ezikhishwe, hhayi ngenxa yokushisa kwemizwelo. Lona umehluko obalulekile phakathi kokungafihli kwamasu kanye nokuba sengcupheni budedengu. ngemva Yakha esidlangalaleni, kodwa hhayi ngesikhathi sangempela Bhala yonke into, kodwa yabelana ngokubambezeleka okuncane. Lokhu kukunikeza umbono wokukhipha imininingwane kunemizwa engahluziwe. Okuqukethwe okungcono kakhulu "kokwakhiwa esidlangalaleni" akukona okwesikhathi sangempela. Ukucabangisisa okwabiwe maduzane ukuze uzizwe umanje kodwa nebanga elanele ukuze kukhishwe ukuhlakanipha. Uma uphakathi nenhlekelele, imizwa yakho iluhlaza kakhulu, umbono wakho unomkhawulo kakhulu. Yibhale ngasese, bese uyabelana ngakho uma usuzuze ibanga elanele lokuyiguqula ibe ukuhlakanipha kunokuphumela ngaphandle. Lokhu akukhona ukuba yiqiniso—kumayelana nokuba yiqiniso ngokuzibophezela. Kungumehluko phakathi kokulahla imizwa engacutshungulwa kuzithameli zakho nokuzinikeza imininingwane ecutshunguliwe ezisiza ngempela. Gxila kuzinhlaka, hhayi kumafomula Ungathengisi isiqiniseko. Thengisa izindlela ezingcono zokuzulazula ngokungaqiniseki. Hhayi "ukwenza lokhu futhi uphumelele" kodwa "lapho ubhekene nale nselelo, nazi izindlela ezintathu engizithole ziwusizo." Ubungcweti obubaluleke kakhulu ukungazi kahle ukuthi kuzokwenzekani. Inamasu amaningi okuthi noma yini engenzeka. Le ndlela yenza okuthile okunamandla: ikubeka njengomhlahlandlela ocabangelayo esikhundleni somfundisi ongenaphutha. Awusho ukuthi unayo IMPENDULO—unikeza amathuluzi asebenze ezimweni ezithile. I-Master parallel processing Funda ukubamba amaqiniso amabili ngesikhathi esisodwa: "Anginazo zonke izimpendulo" futhi "ngazi ngokwanele ukusiza abanye ukuba bathuthuke." Lokhu kushuba akukona ukuphikisana—kuwumnyombo wobungcweti bangempela. Amazwi athenjwa kakhulu akuwona lawo athi azi yonke into. Yilabo abakuchaza ngokucacile abakwaziyo, abakusolayo, nalokho abasakuthola. Leli mhlawumbe ikhono elinzima kunawo wonke. Abantu abaningi bashintshashintsha phakathi kokuzethemba abangakutholile kanye nokungazethembi okukhubaza. Inkosi ime iqine phakathi nendawo, ikhululekile ngokwazi ezinye izinto ngokujulile ngenkathi isengumfundi kwezinye. Dala emaphethelweni okuqonda kwakho Okuqukethwe okubaluleke kakhulu kuhlala lapho ulwazi lwakho luhlangabezana nemibuzo yakho. Yabelana ngalokho okwaziyo, kodwa futhi nalokho osakuthola. Le ndlela ayikona nje ukwethembeka kakhulu—isebenza kakhulu. Uma uyeka ukuzenzisa konke, uthuthukisa amandla amakhulu: ikhono lokufunda, ukuzivumelanisa nezimo, nokukhula esidlangalaleni ngaphandle kwengcindezi ekhubazekile yesiqiniseko sokwenza. Inzuzo Engalinganiselwe Yokungaqiniseki Okuqotho I-irony inamandla: Ukuzimisela kwakho ukuvuma ukungaqiniseki akubona ubuthakathaka— . kungamandla akho amakhulu Ngenkathi bonke abanye bezikhandla ngokugcina inkohliso yolwazi oluphelele, ulondoloza lawo mandla ukuze akhule kwangempela. Nakuba bebambelele ekuvikeleni izikhundla eziphelelwe yisikhathi ukuze bavikele isimo sabo, ukhululekile ukuguqula ukucabanga kwakho njengoba kuvela ulwazi olusha. Ngenkathi beheha abalandeli abalindele izinhlamvu zomlingo namafomula ayimfihlo, wakha umphakathi wezihlakaniphi ezikwazisa ukuhlola okuthembekile. Lokhu akukhona nje ukuziphatha okuphakeme—kunenzuzo ngamasu. Ezweni lokuqiniseka okungamanga, . ilukuluku langempela liwumahluko omkhulu Yilapho ukuxoxwa kwezindaba kushintsha khona kusuka kuqhinga lokumaketha kuya kokuthile okubaluleke kakhulu—ithuluzi lokuxhumana kwangempela nokukhula. Cabanga ngokuthi ubani omthemba kakhulu: Umuntu onempendulo esheshayo kuyo yonke into, akalokothi avume ukungabaza. Noma umuntu othi ngesinye isikhathi, "Umbuzo omuhle lowo. Anginayo impendulo ephelele, kodwa nakhu ukucabanga kwami kwamanje..." Umuntu wesibili akabonisi ubuthakathaka. Bakhombisa ukwethembeka kobuhlakani. Futhi ezweni elicwila ekuziphatheni okuzethembayo, ukwethembeka kwengqondo kuyivelakancane futhi kuyigugu. Izindlela Ezimbili Eziya Phambili Kunezindlela ezimbili zokwakha umsebenzi wakho, ibhizinisi lakho, umsebenzi wakho wokudala: Indlela 1: Umdlalo Wokuzethemba Iphelele indaba yakho. Fihla ubunzima bakho. Iphrojekthi isiqiniseko esingantengantengi. Heha abantu abafuna inganekwane. Zikhathaze ngokugcina inkohliso. Ekugcineni uphelelwe amandla noma ube yilokho owake wazenza. Indlela yesi-2: Umdlalo Wobuqotho Cwilisa ukucabanga kwakho. Yabelana ngohambo lwakho, ngamasu. Zulazula ekungaqiniseki ngokuzethemba kunokuveza ukuqiniseka okungamanga. Heha abantu abazisa iqiniso kunenduduzo. Yakha impumelelo esimeme ezisekelweni zangempela. Indlela yokuqala ingase ikufikise lapho ngokushesha. Indlela yesibili izokugcina ulapho isikhathi eside. Indlela yokuqala ingase ikucebise. Indlela yesibili izokwenza ugcwaliseke. Indlela yokuqala idinga ukuthi ube ngomunye umuntu. Indlela yesibili ikuvumela ukuba ube nguwe ongcono kakhulu. Futhi, iphuzu akukhona ukuthi ukuxoxa indaba ngokwakho kuyinkinga. Inkinga yilapho ukuxoxa indaba kunqanyulwa eqinisweni. Uma kusetshenziswe kahle, ukuxoxa indaba yindlela esenza ngayo umqondo weqiniso futhi sisize abanye benze okufanayo. Awukho Emuva. Uthembekile Nje. Uma ubuzizwa sengathi usalela emuva ngandlela thize ngoba awunawo umgwaqo ophelele ngenkathi wonke umuntu ebonakala enjalo, khumbula lokhu: Awusekho emuva. Uthembeke kakhulu kuwena ukuthi ungakukhohlisa. Ukuqaphela kwakho inkimbinkimbi, i-nuance, izinto ezingaziwa-lokho akubona ubuthakathaka bokunqoba. Kuyacaca abanye abangakakuzuzi. Isikhundla esinamandla kakhulu akukona ukuthi "Nginazo zonke izimpendulo." Ithi "Nginemininingwane ebalulekile, ngisebenza ngenkuthalo emibuzweni ebalulekile, futhi ngizokuletha ohambweni." Akuzona nje izimiso ezinhle zokuziphatha. Kuyibhizinisi elihle. Kungubuhlakani obuhle. Kuyisu elihle lempilo. Engikukhuthazayo ekugcineni akuyona nje indlela ehlukile yokwakhiwa kokuqukethwe noma ukwakhiwa kwebhizinisi. Ubudlelwano obuhluke kakhulu nempumelelo uqobo. Abantu abaningi babheka impumelelo njengendawo emisiwe okudingeka bayifinyelele ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka—ngisho noma lokho kusho ukukhohlisa indlela yabo lapho. Bazimisele ukuyekethisa ukuthi bangobani ukuze bazuze abakufunayo. Kodwa kuthiwani uma impumelelo ingeyona indawo nhlobo? Kuthiwani uma kufana nengxoxo—ingxoxo eqhubekayo phakathi kwamakhono akho athuthukayo kanye nezidingo zomhlaba ezithuthukayo? Kulolo hlaka, ukuxoxa indaba akukhona ukukhohlisa—kuyahumushwa. Kuyindlela okhuluma ngayo ngenani lakho eliyingqayizivele ngendlela abanye abangayiqonda futhi bayithokozele. Uma uhlanganisa ikhono langempela nokuxoxa indaba ngempumelelo, udala into eyivelakancane neyigugu ngempela. Uba ohlukile kulo mthetho—umuntu ongabukeki nje ephumelele kodwa empeleni oletha inani elizohambisana. Leli yithuba langempela elicashe obala. Ngenkathi abanye bematasa benza izindaba ezinhle mayelana namakhono angaphelele, ungathuthukisa inhlanganisela ephelele—amakhono akhethekile ahunyushwe ngokuxoxwa kwezindaba okunamandla. Igebe olibonile ngaphambili? Yilapho ongenela khona. Yilapho onqoba khona. Kahle ubuciko bakho. Kahle kahle indaba yakho. Yakha into yangempela. – Scott