Why you keep complaining about your job but will do nothing about it.

We hear people complaining about their life, and their jobs all the time. Complaints form part of our daily landscape. Recently, a twenty something Yelp employee named became internet-famous after writing an open letter [of complaint] to her . The open letter went viral, and she was fired a few days later, not to the surprise of many. Did she achieve her desired results? Probably not. CEO Today, I am writing an open letter to , and to all of us… myself included. Because we have all been like Talia, at one point or another. We have all complained, and felt the victim. In fact, we live in a complaining society, and it’s a real problem. Although she has been visibly criticized on the internet, and she has taken it to an extreme.. Talia is not unique, or alone. The truth is: Talia We are a complaining society Guy Winch, PhD and author of , recognizes that: The Squeaky Wheel as a society, we complain too much, but more importantly we don’t complain effectively… We’ve lost a sense of what complaining is for; instead, we use it as an exercise for venting and it has consequences. Yes, we need to make changes in the workplace, but venting alone will not fix it. It’s time we take ownership, and direct our complaints more effectively, because: It’s affecting the workplace… We hear people everyday and everywhere complain about their jobs: the unreasonable boss, long work hours, restrictive company policies, uninspiring office space, demanding clients, and the list goes on… I know Talia is not the only one. (When was the last time you complained about your job or heard someone nearby complaining?) In fact, studies have shown that complaints are pervasive in the workplace: This kind of complaining hinders productivity, and worse of all, it doesn’t help us achieve our goals. 70% of Americans work with someone who is always complaining. Complaining can also damage your health. Yes, you heard it right. according to : This affects the way we retain information, and our ability to adapt to new situations. A half hour of complaining every day physically damages a person’s brain, research from Stanford University exposure to negativity peels back neurons in the hippocampus- the part of the brain used for problem solving and cognitive function. Complaining clearly isn’t working for any of us: we are not getting the results we want, and it’s ruining our health. Just listening to someone spread a nasty rumor at work — for more than 30 minutes leads to elevated cortisol levels that hamper synaptic connections and speed up cell death. So why do we keep complaining? **We are addicted.**Most people complain so much that it has become a habit for them. Many of us don’t even realize when, and if, we are complaining. Yes, complaining is easy. We don’t have to challenge ourselves, or take responsibility, as long as we complain. Complaining is comfortable. Complaining is the best excuse for not taking action. Complaining prevents us from taking action. After one person complains, psychologist Robin Kowalski has confirmed: a domino effect takes place > We all complain. Complaining is contagious. If you are ready to stop complaining… Here is how you can stop venting, break your addiction, and effectively direct your complaints: Notice when, why, and how often, you complain each day. Write down all your present and past complaints: today, yesterday, and last week. First, become aware. Identify your complaining habits. Clarify your goal. Identify who to communicate with to achieve the results you want. Figure out what you actually want to achieve. **Take Responsibility.**What action step can you take toward your goal? Take action and communicate your intention or goal to the adequate person or entity. Voice your complaint in a neutral way. Wrap the complaint between two positive statements, and focus on communicating your positive vision. Stay Neutral. If you forget any of these steps, just remember that complaining with , can be very productive**.** a clear purpose and vision There is undeniably much work to be done to transform the workplace: to create equitable, supportive, and empowering work environments for all. But next time we complain to the universe, let’s do so effectively. If you found this article useful, and if you know other ‘complainers’ in your life, please share with them. If you have any other complaints left after reading this article, please do send me an email at: patricia@experimentonpurpose.com. Would love to hear your stories. If you like what you read, remember to ❤ it below — & If you would like to stay in touch, subscribe to my newsletter here.