“Nothing comes easy. Success doesn't just drop on your lap. You have to go out and fight for it every day.”― Dana White It has been proven time and time again that qualities like grit can make all the difference when it comes to achieving success—no matter how you define it or the kind of success you’re chasing. However, beyond grit, determination, and drive, there are countless distractions that can stand in your way. These distractions can crush your dreams and goals in an instant, draining every ounce of ambition and determination from within. They are the very obstacles that cause many of us to abandon our dreams too soon, regardless of how significant our aspirations may be. In this post, I will share with you the 5 simple reasons why people give up far too easily. 1. Surrounded By People Who’ve Given Up “Surround yourself with people on the same mission as you.” – Unknown Who better to surround yourself with than people who’ve given up on their life goals and dreams… Doing this is the dumbest thing you can do if you expect more out of your life. What chance does an aspiring singer have if he/she is surrounded by people who’ve quit on their own dreams and goals? Or worse, these are the types of people they take bullshit advice from? These types of people will tell you things like: There’s no way you’ll be successful. If I didn’t succeed, you won’t either. Nobody in our family/area is successful, so what makes you any different? It’s nice to dream, but it’s not realistic. Just get a basic job, start a family, and settle. Your goals are unrealistic. They’ll tell you things like this because that’s their reality. And if they don’t tell you directly, they’ll tell you through their behavior. They’re not giving you advice, they’re giving themselves advice. They’re not talking to you, they’re talking to a mirror. You are what you surround yourself with, as they say. The truth is, they do not know what you can achieve, and their doubts often reflect their own limitations, not yours. So, one way or another, you’ll more than likely give up after a couple of months, or even after a short year—unless you change your circle of friends, associates, and the people you let into your life every day. 2. Reading Too Many “30 under 30” Billionaire Lists “Money is only a tool. It will take you wherever you wish, but it will not replace you as the driver.” – Ayn Rand You know the ones I’m talking about. The types of lists Forbes publishes every year or so. There’s nothing wrong with these lists, in fact, they’re inspirational, and there’s something we can learn from those who are on it. But when you get caught up in the thought of mimicking what they’ve done, as quickly as they’ve done it, you become delusional. The fact is almost 100% of people will never accumulate billions of pounds before they’re 30 years old. It’s not that it’s impossible, but the probability is low. When you’re looking at the world through delusional eyes, you end up disappointed, depressed, failing, and questioning whether you’re good enough or not. Then your self-esteem starts taking a pounding like it’s just been in a fight with Mike Tyson. And that’s when the thought of giving up starts creeping in before it becomes your reality. Having high expectations is NOT the same as having delusional expectations. Don’t get the two definitions confused. 3. Not Having A Clear Purpose “A lack of clarity could put the breaks on any journey to success.” – Steve Maraboli Most of us have no idea why we’re doing what we’re doing. I know I’ve been there. Having no clear sense of purpose, or “why” behind my actions is what caused me to procrastinate, and quit too fast and too soon. Just imagine how disastrous that would be if the pilot flying tons of people from one country to another had NO idea what he/she was doing. Well, that’s exactly how disastrous it is to your life, your goals, your aims, and your dreams. This is why smart goal setting is essential—it gives you direction and clarity, helping you stay focused on your purpose. Not knowing why, and not having a strong enough “why” will cause YOUR plane to crash, burn, and explode until there’s nothing left of it. Then that’ll cause you to quit, give up, or worse, to never ever dare to try again. Write down WHY you’re doing what you’re doing, and WHY it matters. And If it doesn’t matter, then it’s your job to find something that does matter. Something that gives you a strong enough reason to persevere and see it through until completion. Something that you wake up thinking about and go to bed thinking about. And something that keeps you focused on what’s important instead of what’s irrelevant. 4. Not Willing To Give Up Old Habits For Better Habits “Don’t make a habit of choosing what feels good over what’s actually good for you.” – Eric Thomas Ever since I started my personal development journey 6+ years ago, I’ve given up video games, watching too much TV, the mainstream news, and many other things. If I never gave up those habits, I wouldn’t even be sat writing out this article. Instead, I’d be swimming in a pool of bad habits that are poisonous to my goals and my plans. And I would have shot my ambition in the head a long time ago. Grant Cardone is a great example of this. Until the age of 25, he was taking drugs, hanging around druggies, and negative people. Then he completely turned his life around by changing his drug habits, and the types of people and things he surrounded himself with. If you’re not willing to give up old habits for habits that support your goals, then you may as well tear up the sheet of paper you wrote your goals down on. Or burn it. Because you’ll only get in your way, waste time, and quit on yourself too soon and too early. 5. Not Willing To Promote Themselves “Without promotion, something terrible happens… Nothing.” – P.T. Barnum There was a time when I was terrified of promoting myself. It wasn’t self-promotion itself that scared me; it was the opinions of other people that scared me. What will they think of me? How will they respond? What if they criticize me? What if they don’t agree? The WHAT IF disease stood in my way and I wasn’t willing to fight back. If you don’t promote yourself, or worse, you promote yourself too little, then there’s no way you’ll have the stomach to keep persevering and pursuing the things you want. One way or another you’ll quit on yourself and make excuses as to why things aren’t working out for you, or why things will NEVER work out for you. You’ll excuse yourself from the fact that you never promoted yourself enough, if at all. Nobody will give you what you want if you’re too afraid to ask for it. And there’s no achievement without the involvement of other people. Nothing is achieved alone. “Nothing comes easy. Success doesn't just drop on your lap. You have to go out and fight for it every day.”― Dana White “Nothing comes easy. Success doesn't just drop on your lap. You have to go out and fight for it every day.”― Dana White “Nothing comes easy. Success doesn't just drop on your lap. You have to go out and fight for it every day.” ― Dana White It has been proven time and time again that qualities like grit can make all the difference when it comes to achieving success—no matter how you define it or the kind of success you’re chasing. However, beyond grit, determination, and drive, there are countless distractions that can stand in your way. These distractions can crush your dreams and goals in an instant, draining every ounce of ambition and determination from within. They are the very obstacles that cause many of us to abandon our dreams too soon, regardless of how significant our aspirations may be. In this post, I will share with you the 5 simple reasons why people give up far too easily. 1. Surrounded By People Who’ve Given Up “Surround yourself with people on the same mission as you.” – Unknown “Surround yourself with people on the same mission as you.” “Surround yourself with people on the same mission as you.” – Unknown – Unknown Who better to surround yourself with than people who’ve given up on their life goals and dreams… Doing this is the dumbest thing you can do if you expect more out of your life. What chance does an aspiring singer have if he/she is surrounded by people who’ve quit on their own dreams and goals? Or worse, these are the types of people they take bullshit advice from? These types of people will tell you things like: There’s no way you’ll be successful. If I didn’t succeed, you won’t either. Nobody in our family/area is successful, so what makes you any different? It’s nice to dream, but it’s not realistic. Just get a basic job, start a family, and settle. Your goals are unrealistic. There’s no way you’ll be successful. If I didn’t succeed, you won’t either. Nobody in our family/area is successful, so what makes you any different? It’s nice to dream, but it’s not realistic. Just get a basic job, start a family, and settle. Your goals are unrealistic. They’ll tell you things like this because that’s their reality. And if they don’t tell you directly, they’ll tell you through their behavior. They’re not giving you advice, they’re giving themselves advice. They’re not talking to you, they’re talking to a mirror. You are what you surround yourself with, as they say. The truth is, they do not know what you can achieve , and their doubts often reflect their own limitations, not yours. they do not know what you can achieve So, one way or another, you’ll more than likely give up after a couple of months, or even after a short year—unless you change your circle of friends, associates, and the people you let into your life every day. 2. Reading Too Many “30 under 30” Billionaire Lists “Money is only a tool. It will take you wherever you wish, but it will not replace you as the driver.” – Ayn Rand “Money is only a tool. It will take you wherever you wish, but it will not replace you as the driver.” “Money is only a tool. It will take you wherever you wish, but it will not replace you as the driver.” – Ayn Rand – Ayn Rand You know the ones I’m talking about. The types of lists Forbes publishes every year or so. There’s nothing wrong with these lists, in fact, they’re inspirational, and there’s something we can learn from those who are on it. But when you get caught up in the thought of mimicking what they’ve done, as quickly as they’ve done it, you become delusional. The fact is almost 100% of people will never accumulate billions of pounds before they’re 30 years old. It’s not that it’s impossible, but the probability is low. When you’re looking at the world through delusional eyes, you end up disappointed, depressed, failing, and questioning whether you’re good enough or not. Then your self-esteem starts taking a pounding like it’s just been in a fight with Mike Tyson. And that’s when the thought of giving up starts creeping in before it becomes your reality. Having high expectations is NOT the same as having delusional expectations. Don’t get the two definitions confused. 3. Not Having A Clear Purpose “A lack of clarity could put the breaks on any journey to success.” – Steve Maraboli “A lack of clarity could put the breaks on any journey to success.” “A lack of clarity could put the breaks on any journey to success.” – Steve Maraboli – Steve Maraboli Most of us have no idea why we’re doing what we’re doing. I know I’ve been there. Having no clear sense of purpose, or “why” behind my actions is what caused me to procrastinate, and quit too fast and too soon. Just imagine how disastrous that would be if the pilot flying tons of people from one country to another had NO idea what he/she was doing. Well, that’s exactly how disastrous it is to your life, your goals, your aims, and your dreams. This is why smart goal setting is essential —it gives you direction and clarity, helping you stay focused on your purpose. Not knowing why, and not having a strong enough “why” will cause YOUR plane to crash, burn, and explode until there’s nothing left of it. why smart goal setting is essential Then that’ll cause you to quit, give up, or worse, to never ever dare to try again. Write down WHY you’re doing what you’re doing, and WHY it matters. And If it doesn’t matter, then it’s your job to find something that does matter. Something that gives you a strong enough reason to persevere and see it through until completion. Something that you wake up thinking about and go to bed thinking about. And something that keeps you focused on what’s important instead of what’s irrelevant. 4. Not Willing To Give Up Old Habits For Better Habits “Don’t make a habit of choosing what feels good over what’s actually good for you.” – Eric Thomas “Don’t make a habit of choosing what feels good over what’s actually good for you.” “Don’t make a habit of choosing what feels good over what’s actually good for you.” – Eric Thomas – Eric Thomas Ever since I started my personal development journey 6+ years ago, I’ve given up video games, watching too much TV, the mainstream news, and many other things. If I never gave up those habits, I wouldn’t even be sat writing out this article. Instead, I’d be swimming in a pool of bad habits that are poisonous to my goals and my plans. And I would have shot my ambition in the head a long time ago. Grant Cardone is a great example of this . Grant Cardone is a great example of this Until the age of 25, he was taking drugs, hanging around druggies, and negative people. Then he completely turned his life around by changing his drug habits, and the types of people and things he surrounded himself with. If you’re not willing to give up old habits for habits that support your goals, then you may as well tear up the sheet of paper you wrote your goals down on. Or burn it. Because you’ll only get in your way, waste time, and quit on yourself too soon and too early. 5. Not Willing To Promote Themselves “Without promotion, something terrible happens… Nothing.” – P.T. Barnum “Without promotion, something terrible happens… Nothing.” “Without promotion, something terrible happens… Nothing.” – P.T. Barnum – P.T. Barnum There was a time when I was terrified of promoting myself. It wasn’t self-promotion itself that scared me; it was the opinions of other people that scared me. What will they think of me? How will they respond? What if they criticize me? What if they don’t agree? The WHAT IF disease stood in my way and I wasn’t willing to fight back. If you don’t promote yourself, or worse, you promote yourself too little, then there’s no way you’ll have the stomach to keep persevering and pursuing the things you want. One way or another you’ll quit on yourself and make excuses as to why things aren’t working out for you, or why things will NEVER work out for you. You’ll excuse yourself from the fact that you never promoted yourself enough, if at all. Nobody will give you what you want if you’re too afraid to ask for it. And there’s no achievement without the involvement of other people. Nothing is achieved alone.
