When you buy a brand-new bike, what’s the first thing you learn after taking it for a spin?That it comes with aservice schedule.Every few hundred kilometers — oil check. After a certain time — chain cleaning, brake adjustments, tire inspections. service schedule It’s routine. It’s expected.And we follow it without question because we understand one thing:If you want something to last, you maintain it. If you want something to last, you maintain it. I call this the Maintenance Algorithm— a simple but powerful idea that applies to far more than bikes or machines.It applies toeverything in life, especially human relationships. Maintenance Algorithm everything in life human relationships Relationships Are Machines Too (But Smarter) Relationships Are Machines Too (But Smarter) A bike is a passive machine. It doesn't argue or resist. It won't ghost you if you forget to oil the chain.But a relationship is different — it’sdynamic, sensitive, and alive.And it requires more than mechanical servicing. It needsemotional maintenance. dynamic sensitive alive emotional maintenance Checking in with your partner regularly is like checking the engine.
Having honest conversations is like tightening loose bolts.
Apologizing when you mess up is like realigning the wheels. Checking in with your partner regularly is like checking the engine. Having honest conversations is like tightening loose bolts. Apologizing when you mess up is like realigning the wheels. Just like a well-serviced bike rides smoother, a well-maintained relationship feels lighter, more joyful, more resilient to the bumps along the way. feels Mutual Effort Is Non-Negotiable Mutual Effort Is Non-Negotiable Here’s the catch — a bike doesn’t have a say in its maintenance. You control it. But in a relationship, both people have to be on board. One person cannot do all the tune-ups alone. It’s a two-way road — both partners need to be willing to stop, assess, communicate, and grow. both people have to be on board Ever tried fixing a bike while it’s still being ridden?That's what it feels like when only one person is trying to work on a relationship while the other keeps pushing forward without reflection. Mutual effort doesn’t mean being perfect.It means beingintentional. intentional It’s sitting down and saying: “Hey, I’ve noticed we’ve been distant lately. Let’s talk.”“I feel like something’s off — how can we fix it together?” “Hey, I’ve noticed we’ve been distant lately. Let’s talk.”“I feel like something’s off — how can we fix it together?” “Hey, I’ve noticed we’ve been distant lately. Let’s talk.” “I feel like something’s off — how can we fix it together?” It’s Not Just Romantic Relationships It’s Not Just Romantic Relationships The Maintenance Algorithm isn’t limited to couples.It applies to: Friendships (when was the last time you checked in on that friend who always checks in on you?)
Family bonds (parents, siblings — they need more than just occasional visits)
Work relationships (colleagues and teams thrive when communication and trust are maintained) Friendships (when was the last time you checked in on that friend who always checks in on you?) Friendships Family bonds (parents, siblings — they need more than just occasional visits) Family bonds Work relationships (colleagues and teams thrive when communication and trust are maintained) Work relationships In every context, relationships either grow or decay.And maintenance is the difference. A Personal Take: When I Forgot the Algorithm A Personal Take: When I Forgot the Algorithm I learned this the hard way.There was a time when I poured all my energy into work. Deadlines, goals, achievements — they took priority. I assumed my relationships would "run themselves" like machines. They didn’t. Slowly, things started breaking down.Misunderstandings became arguments.Moments of silence stretched into weeks.I was shocked — but I shouldn't have been. I hadn't done themaintenance. maintenance Rebuilding wasn’t easy. But once I started treating relationships like the valuable systems they are — systems that need time, effort, and care — things began to shift. And it made all the difference. Final Thoughts: Maintenance Is Love in Action Final Thoughts: Maintenance Is Love in Action In the end, maintenance isn’t just about fixing what’s broken.It’s aboutpreventing problemsbefore they start.It’s about showing the other person: preventing problems “I care enough to notice. I care enough to try.” “I care enough to notice. I care enough to try.” “I care enough to notice. I care enough to try.” So whether it’s a relationship, a bike, or your own mental health —Don’t wait for a breakdown to pay attention. Remember the Maintenance Algorithm.Apply it. Live it.And watch everything around you last longer, feel better, and run smoother.

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