Wake waba sengxoxweni lapho uzwe sengathi ubuchopho bakho buyancibilika?  Uyalwazi uhlobo. Uveza iphuzu - ngomoya ophansi, ngokuhluzeka kwengqondo, mhlawumbe ngisho nangobuhle obumangalisayo - futhi ngokuzumayo uminza egagasini lombhedo.  Ukuhlaselwa komuntu siqu.  Iziphetho zasendle.  Uhlobo lwengqondo ekwenza uzibuze ukuthi ingabe omunye umuntu usanda kulimala ekhanda.  Kuyacasula. Kukwenza ufune ukupheqa itafula bese umemeza:  ‍   ‍  Kodwa nansi into: Ngezinye izikhathi awukwazi ukubagwema laba bantu. Mhlawumbe umphathi wakho. Mhlawumbe yisihlobo osibona ngamaholidi kuphela.  Mhlawumbe ngumuntu olayini esitolo ocabanga ukuthi ungowesibili u-Aristotle ngoba ufunde isihloko esisodwa kuFacebook.  Kulezi zikhathi, udinga amathuluzi. Hhayi "ukunqoba" ingxabano - ngoba isigamu sesikhathi, ukuwina kusho ukuchitha amandla amaningi - kodwa ukugcina ingqondo yakho futhi ungalahlekelwa ukholo ezinhlobonhlobo.  Nazi izicupho   ezisetshenziswa abantu nokuthi ungaziqaqa kanjani ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa umqondo wakho (noma umphefumulo wakho). ezingu-8 ezihlakaniphile  ‍   1. I-Ad Hominem   I-Classic Cheap Shot.  Esikhundleni sokuphikisana ngephuzu lakho,   . Ngoba kungani ubhekana nengxabano yangempela lapho bekwazi ukukuthatha ngokushintshashintsha umlingiswa wakho? bayakuphikisa    Wena: “Ngicabanga ukuthi le nkampani kufanele isebenzise izinqubo ezizinzile. ”Them: “Hawu, uvela kumfokazana osashayela igas guzzler?” Isibonelo:    “Mina ukushayela i-gas guzzler akulishintshi iqiniso lokuthi ukusimama kubalulekile. Mhlawumbe ake sigxile embonweni esikhundleni semoto yami.” Isibali:    Yeka ukwenza lokhu ngami. Ukuzenzisa kwami (okwangempela noma okucatshangwayo) akuwenzi ukuphikisana kwakho kangcono. Ukuhumusha:  ‍   2. Indoda Yotshani   Ukwakha I-Scarecrow, Bese Uyishisa.  Kulapho othile ethatha okushilo, akusonte kube i-caricature ehlekisayo, bese ekhanyisa lowo mbhedo esikhundleni sephuzu lakho langempela.    Wena: “Ngicabanga ukuthi umsebenzi wakude unezinzuzo zawo. "Them: "Ngakho-ke ufuna ukuthi wonke umuntu ahlale ekhaya egqoke izingubo zokulala futhi angaphinde akhulume nomunye umuntu?" Isibonelo:    “Angishongo kanjalo. Umsebenzi wokude awusho ukuzihlukanisa nomphakathi. Kusho ukuguquguquka. Izinto ezimbili ezihluke kakhulu. " UMbali:    Ungangihlohleli amagama emlonyeni bese uzenza iqhawe ngokuwahlafuna. Ukuhumusha:   3. I-Slope Slope   Impikiswano "Yonke Izowa".  Ushintsho olulodwa oluncane, futhi kungazelelwe siwela ku-apocalypse. Ngoba kungani ubhekana ne-nuance lapho ungabikezela inhlekelele?    Wena: “Kufanele sivumele amahora okusebenza avumelana nezimo. "Them: "Yebo, futhi okulandelayo uyazi, akekho ozosebenza, futhi umphakathi uzowohloka." Isibonelo:    “Amahora aguquguqukayo awasho ukuthi abantu bayeke ukusebenza. Kusho ukuthi basebenza ngobuhlakani. Asingene esiphethweni sikaMad Max.” Isibali:    Yehlisa umoya, Nostradamus. Isinyathelo esisodwa esiya phambili asihlali siholela eweni. Ukuhumusha:   4. I-Bandwagon Fallacy   Uma Bonke Abanye Beqa Ebhulohweni...  Lona ufana nokucindezela kontanga ngendlela yokuphikisana. Ngoba nje wonke umuntu ukholelwa ukuthi akulenzi iqiniso.    Bona: "Wonke umuntu engimaziyo uthi lokhu kudla kuyasebenza, ngakho-ke kufanele kukulungele." Isibonelo:    “Isixuku sabantu abakholelwa okuthile akulenzi iqiniso. Wonke umuntu wayevame ukucabanga ukuthi uMhlaba uyisicaba.” Isibali:    Ukuthandwa yijaji elibi leqiniso. Buza noma iyiphi ingane yasesikoleni esiphakathi. Ukuhumusha:   5. Ukudluliswa Kwezikhalazo Egunyeni   Ngoba “Uchwepheshe” Washo Ngakho.  Ukuhudula egameni elikhulu ongahlobene nhlobo nesihloko.    Bona: "Umfundisi wami we-yoga uthi leli yisu elingcono kakhulu lokutshala imali." Isibonelo:    "Umfundisi wakho we-yoga angase azi indlela yokwenza inja ehle kakhulu, kodwa angicabangi ukuthi uWarren Buffett." I-Counter:    Indaba emnandi. Manje ake sizwe ngomuntu owaziyo ukuthi ukhuluma ngani. Ukuhumusha:   6. I-Dichotomy Yamanga   Khetha Uhlangothi. Bababili Kuphela.  Kulapho-ke bebilisa udaba oluyinkimbinkimbi kuze kube yizinqumo ezimbili ezeqisayo. Kuwukuvilapha ukucabanga okucashile njengokunquma.    Bona: "Kungenzeka ukuthi ungumuntu wekati noma inja." Isibonelo:    “Noma — ngizwe — ngingakuthanda   . Noma kunjalo. Ngoba impilo ayiyona ifilimu ye-Disney. " Isibali: kokubili    Kunokunambitheka okungaphezu kokukodwa ka-ayisikhilimu. Yeka ukungenza ngikhethe phakathi kwe-vanilla ne-vanilla. Ukuhumusha:  ‍   7. I-Red Herring   Bheka Laphaya!  Baphonsa okuthile okungabalulekile nhlobo ukuze bakuphazamise esihlokweni sangempela. I-agumenti elingana nengane encane ekhomba into ecwebezelayo.    Wena: “Ngicabanga ukuthi ikhwalithi yekhamera kule foni ayiyinhle neze. "Them: "Yebo, kodwa yizwa ukuthi idizayini inhle kangakanani!" Isibonelo:    “Umklamo muhle, kodwa sikhuluma ngekhamera. Hlala nami lapha.” Isibali:    Yeka ukuzama ukushintsha isihloko. Akulula kangako ukuphazamisa. Ukuhumusha:  ‍   8. Imbangela Yamanga   Zimbili Izinto Zenzeke, Ngakho Kumele Zihlobane.  Ukuthi izinto ezimbili zenzeka ndawonye akusho ukuthi enye ibangele enye. Ukuxhumana akuyona imbangela.    Bona: “Njalo uma ngigqoka leli hembe, iqembu lami liyawina. Ihembe lami lenhlanhla!” Isibonelo:    “Noma mhlawumbe iqembu lakho lihle kwezemidlalo. Ihembe lakho aliyona ingxenye yohlu.” I-Counter:    Ukuvumelana kwenzeka. Ihembe lakho akuwona umlingo. Uxolo. Ukuhumusha:   Ungasinda Kanjani Lezi zingxoxo Ngaphandle Kokulahlekelwa Umqondo    Ukuba nemizwa kufana nokubanikeza iphasi lamahhala ukuze bakukhiphe. Phefumula. Shayela istokhi sakho sangaphakathi. Zola:    Qiniseka ukuthi uyakuqonda   abakushoyo ngaphambi kokuba uphendule. Ukungabaqondi kubanikeza inhlamvu. Lalela Kakhulu: ngempela    Yazi lawa manga njengengemuva lesandla sakho. Uma uzibona kakhulu, zizokukhubeka kancane. Zilungiselele:    Ukungqubuzana okucacile kuyawina. Inkimbinkimbi umsindo nje. Kugcine Kulula:    Uma ingxoxo ingayi ndawo futhi ingqondo yakho isengozini, hamba. Ithiphu Lebhonasi:  AKEKHO noyedwa owake wabheka emuva ekuphileni kwakhe futhi wacabanga,  “Ngifisa sengathi ngingaphikisana nezilima ezengeziwe.”   Umcabango Wokugcina  Lawa mathuluzi ngeke akusize nje ezingxabanweni. Bazokusiza   .  okungasho lutho ukuthi ugweme  Futhi ezweni lapho ukuxabana ku-inthanethi kuwumsebenzi wokuzilibazisa, lokho kungamandla amakhulu.  Ngakho-ke phuma, uvikele ingqondo yakho, futhi mhlawumbe - mhlawumbe - usize ukudala umhlaba lapho abantu becabanga ngaphambi kokuba bakhulume.  Noma cha. Okungenani   . uzohlakanipha  Kuze kube ngokuzayo✌️  UBen.  ‍

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